Post # 1
So a little while ago I posted how my Fiances momma wasnt doing good AT ALL and some Bees suggested that we do a commitment ceremony, well when I was going to bring it up to my FI she was getting worse, she wasnt responsive and she was waking up so she wasnt able to see anything of that sort but he was keeping her updated on the wedding plans and she was happy about it.
Well on Tuesday she did pass away. I didnt get ANY sleep that night I was on the phone with my Fiance all early morning from 12 to 4 and got to his house as soon as I could. I wasnt there because they are a very close mexican family and nobodys SO was there so I really didnt want to intrude so I stayed away. They are doing a Velorial for her which lasts 9 days and so far everytime I am there I cant help but cry. My FI keeps tells me stop crying because then I am going to make him cry but I cant help it! Everyone kept telling me to stay strong for him and dont cry, welp it didnt work. I have never had a death so close to me before so it was way tough!
I just cant help. I was OK with changing to date of the wedding to a WAY later date but my FI soooo doesnt want that, he wants to go as if nothing ever happend because I know how he is, him and his sisters say she is gone but not from our hearts so they want to go on with it to. So I wanna do something special for her at our reception I just dont know what yet.
But I do want to thank all of the Bees that kept us in your thoughts and prayers you have no idea how much it ment and still means to us!
Post # 3
I’m very sorry for your and your fi’s loss.
Post # 4
I am so so sorry! I hope that your SO, you and his family will find strengh to go threw this time. I love my mon-in-law and I can’t imagine losing her. I absolutely agree that you should do something to commemorate her during the ceremony, maybe have your FI or one of his sisters do a reading from her favorite poem. Or have a picture of her on the seat she should have occupied since she will be there in your thoughts. Once again,I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 5
You’re in my thoughts. My mom passed away in December, so I can empathize with your situation. I would suggest finding some girlfriends or your own family who can support you and having a really good cry without your fiance. He is going through a lot, and I completely understand that you want to be there for him, but it sounds like right now it might be making it harder for him. My FI and I went through a struggle, too, because he wasn’t sure how to handle it all. If you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me. I am sorry for your and your FI’s loss.
Post # 6
Oh hun, I am so so sorry. This must be so tough for the both of you. And it is okay to cry, it doesn’t mean that you’re not being strong, because you are. And everyone grieves differently, the best thing you can do is just to be there for each other. Stay strong and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. This is absolutely my biggest fear, so I can’t imagine how hard it must be. It’s such a fear that I actually think about what I would do at our wedding if we lost someone close. Unfortunately, the short answer is…I have no idea. I hope you find a lovely and meaningful way of honoring her on your day. She will, as his sister said, be in your hearts and with you at your wedding.
Post # 8
I am so sorry. Losing a parent is one of the worst things. I am so sorry.
You HAVE to find it in you to be strong for your FI. Pull from your love for him and your soon to be Mother In Law. He does not need to worry about you right now. Now is the time for you to take care of him.
My brother in law passed away unexpectedly over the holidays. The three of us were super super tight. Everywhere we were he was there. So it was extremely hard on me, he was my brother too. While still letting yourself grieve, you have to put it aside and be strong for him and his family.
I know you can find it in you.
Post # 10
I am so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you now, and how hard it will be on your wedding day. You’re in my prayers.
Post # 11
@rocky.omar: Oh hon, I’m so sorry.
Post # 13
Im so sorry… Just know she would probably want you to still get married and have the best wedding day. Always remember she might not be there in person but she will be watching. and has the best seats in the house:) My thoughts will be with you.
Post # 14
I am so sorry- praying for you and your FI’s family through this time.