- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So to say my DH has a strained relationship with his dad is an understatement. They have talked 3 times this year- once by phone and twice by text. We saw him and his wife (not DH’s mom) once this year in March. In the 6 years we have been together we have not once spent Thanksgving with him. Today I received an email from his wife (who is nice and not really the problem here). It said:
” “Dad” is so looking forward to us all gathering for Thanksgiving on November 30th. Please be there at 1pm”
Hmmm. No one ever asked us if we were free that day- which we are not since we will have flown to Boston to celebrate the holiday with other family. I am pretty sure he didnt ask either of DH’s siblings either- because we do talk to them regularly and I know they would have mentioned it. I politely responded that we would be out of town for the whole weekend and I hoped they had a lovely gathering.
But I am fuming. I am 36 years old- no one tells me where to go. He has a history of demanding the presence of his kids- who are all in their 30’s and 40’s. He will email everyone and be like- we will be celebrating XYZ at 2pm on WHATEVER DATE. And then if people can’t make it he throws a fit and pouts. It is getting worse as he gets older and it has been upsetting all of the kids. BIL yelled at him in the spring- but obviously taht didnt help. Beyond the email I sent back I am letting DH deal with his father- that has been my tactic all year long so far- but I did need to vent. Any thoughts or advice?