Post # 1
I went to my caterer— there’s been rumors that he’s going out of business. Not only is he catering my wedding, but his restaurant is also our venue.
I went in to talk to him today & I told him to be 100% honest with me because if I thought he was lying I was going to take my business elsewhere…. well he told me that they are having financial difficulties but (here’s where Bridezilla happens) even if they do go out of business he will still personally cater my wedding. In reality, that’s a nice guesture… in bridezilla land it was unacceptable.
We’ve discussed it a million times & even have it written in our contract that the restaurant is our venue. He played dumb & was like “Oh really? Since when?”
Then ladies something strange happened. It was like an out of body experience… I was watching myself scream at him. I screamed & screamed… tore up the contract & told him where to stuff the deposit.
I’m going to send him an apology note right now. Seriously. Usually I’m so level headed & kind. I feel AWFUL! If anyone talked to me like that I’d be a mess on the floor… ugh! I’m a terrible person.
We had developed a FANTASTIC menu with him, but I can’t risk not having a venue. I can’t risk all the what if’s… (not excusing my behavior, just stating facts)
I also called Grouse Mountain. They will not go out of business… they’re hosting the 2010 Olympics. They’re rock solid in this economy & it will work out to be even cheaper than our caterer. I’ve been to a wedding on the mountain before so I don’t even need to see the venue. I need to select our menu, the number or approximate guests & send in my deposit. Woo.
Have you ever acted like a bridezilla? If so, please share!
Post # 3
I’d write the note but honestly, it doesn’t sound like you went TOO overboard on him. Maybe you shouldn’t have screamed and screamed and screamed 😉 but maybe just a scream. It happens and I HATE when vendors try to take advantage of customers.
It sounds like you found a good/maybe even better venue. Really I would write the apology but put into something about the other venue. And honestly I would have a back up caterer in the wings JUST in case. It doesn’t sound like this guy is organized AT ALL and you would hate to be a few weeks till your wedding and he “oh really since when” about food for your wedding 🙂
Not too bridezilla, maybe just a baby bride lizard 🙂
Post # 4
lol baby bride lizard… thanks TPHoliday!!
Still feel like a b!tch though 🙂
He’s no longer my caterer! I’m not apologizing to get him back, I’m apologizing because its the right thing to do! Honestly, the vibe I got from him & stress on his face… he’ll be out of business by next July. It’s so sad…
Post # 5
*hugs* I haven’t written you back yet and for that I’m sorry (doing it now!), but man. It sounds like you were totally justified in being angry! That could have for real been a disaster and I am so glad you confronted him about it, because it could have ended badly. Great job standing up for yourself! Now… yeah, apology note for screaming 🙂 But still. Justified anger.
Post # 6
HAhahahahaha! This is amazing. Ok, here was my bridezilla moment. A couple months ago, I was shopping with my BMs for wedding shoes. We were actually not shopping for shoes, but I saw THE shoes and I had to have them! Anyway, so that store didn’t have my size, so the next day on our way back home (home = 2 hours from big city) we went through another mall with the same store. I went in, asked about the shoes, they didn’t have them in my size, but the store had a separate shoe boutique in a diff. part of the mall. So we go down there, ask about the shoes and they don’t have them either! So I collected myself and then took the hand of the girl across the counter, looked her in the eye and said, “Look. Normally I’m not psycho about a pair of shoes, but these are for my WEDDING. ARe you SURE you can’t find another pair??? PLEASE?” Salesgirl inches away slowly. “Ma’am, I’ll call another store…” So she did and had them hold the shoes for me so I could go to yet another store…as soon as I walked in the store they asked “are you the bride? Here’s your shoes…” LOL.
It’s bound and determined to happen. Embrace your inner-zilla or baby lizard or whatever. Just don’t fall in love with it. hehe.
Post # 7
By the way, Recessionista, I feel like we are for sure best friends. The bouquet in your pic is exactly what I want for my bouquet! HA!
Post # 8
@Mrs. Dee: I can’t believe you grabbed her hand… lol that’s a good bridezilla moment!! Yay a new WB BFF! I can always use more now that all the other bee’s are married:)
@KM: Hi 🙂
Post # 9
I think I had my bridezilla moment before the engagement. My FH and I were on vacation in Hawaii and had been hiking all day in the Volcanos State Park. We hiked something like 16 miles and I was so tired and hungry. So we were standing on an overlook admiring the craters/gorges and our conversation when something like this:
Him: “this was such a great day”
Me: “You know what would have made it better? An engagement ring”.
Him: And he kind of laughed at me and said “would you really have wanted to get engaged here? All tired and sulfur smelling and stuff?”
Me: “At this point I’m willing to take what I can get”
Fortunately for me he thought is was funny (which of course only made me more angry! – btw we had been dating for 8 years so I’m not totally psycho!)
He proposed 2 days later 🙂
Post # 10
Who is your original caterer? If you don’t mind sharing? Grouse mountain is awesome, the FI and just went zip lining there a couple weeks back.
As for bridezilla moments, I did almost have one and I remember thinking to myself that I’m crazy for being one at that moment. But you know what, it is completely understandable, we are under a lot of stress and we just want the day to be perfect. Sometimes it just gets the better of us whether we like it or not. Good luck with your venue hunt!
Post # 12
I’m not one yet! Honestly, is this not the one point in our lives when people expect you to live up to crazy standards? I haven’t gotten down any vendors throats yet but I know I will. I was rude to a classical guitarist I spoke with at a Bridal Expo bc I told him a good friend was playing guitar for us and he tried to insinuate I needed a back up incase he “didn’t show up” and that made me irate! My mom agreed and suggested we take his card and that was just TOO much!
Post # 13
Baby Lizard! BE THE BABY LIZARD! Sometimes it works out for the best, you know. 😉
Post # 14
@Kailunkat Hey, FI and I are going to Volcanoes NP in March, good thing we’re already engaged. Haha I’ll try to picture that moment when we’re smelling the sulfur and enjoying the views after hours of hiking – “Why couldn’t you have just proposed here?!” 😀