My first and only boyfriend to become my fiance!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@simplicitea:  I get what you are saying but  I definately agree with your folks.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@simplicitea:  My parents always told me this too.

Do they really want my heart tossing around from guy to guy? Opening it out for many guys? Having it crushed again and again?

Do I really have to give my self in body and soul to many man so I can go back and know my guy is the one?

Do I have to taste all brown things in the world to know what I am eating right now is honey? I don’t think so.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

“I got it right the first time!” and just leave it at that. There is no one right way. Some people find their future spouses in grade school! Others may not meet them until they are 70!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@simplicitea:  I met mine at 14!!!!!! I honestly wouldnt change a thing. He has been the only guy I have ever been with…only bf! And I have no regrets. I am actually happy it’s just him 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@simplicitea:  Well, I understand both….

I dated a ton of people before DH (got a head start at unsupervised dating at eleven!) and I think my experiences really helped both of us. I had been in relationships that lasted two years and relationships that lasted a few weeks. By the time I got to DH I knew JUST what I wanted and was pretty good at knowing how to handle problems that come with relationships. 

Now, DH and I met a couple times during middle school through the church but never really connected. He was a good kid and I just was a “anything goes” kind of person…

By the time DH and I started semi-dating (wasn’t exclusive) I was a soon to be freshman and he was a soon to be Junior. We became exclusive sometime after football season was over (heck if I remember)…..DH had never kissed a girl, had a girl say she loved him, and he had never had a girlfriend! 

I think our differences really brought something to the relationship and helped us really make it into something wonderful. Even though he had no experience he had that love and passion for only one person while I had my experience to bring some structure to the more difficult conflicts we came across. 

Long story short: I feel like my experience was important to me! However, I also feel like my DH didn’t need the experience I did in order to make our relationship work. Each person is different and I wouldn’t throw away a good thing just so you can explore (unless YOU really need those other trials/errors). 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Girl I feel ya! I met mine at 12 and my mom still tells me stuff like “You need to write a list of everything you want in a husband, not based on what you have..” And all this stuff. Like whato if my list is everything that I already have? I just feel like she has very little respect for the fact that I’ve been in love with this guy for over 5 years. We will be getting engaged soon and she will just have to learn to accept that he is my one! I’d hate to ruin what I have by thinking I needed to go out and try dating other people just to make sure there’s no one better..

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@simplicitea:  Oh ya I agree as well…every couple is different. I’m not saying it won’t work out for you..,I sincerely hope that it does! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@simplicitea:  My mum tried to tell me the exact same thing… I paid no head to it as she is by far the LAST person I would ever take relationship advice from.

The way I figure it is that I dont need to date other people to find out what I DONT like, if I KNOW that I like what I already have 🙂

(did that ^ make sense? I think it made sense.. :/ )

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