(Closed) My First Bee Posting…Already Need Advice…lol

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you need to have a talk with her. tell her what you’re feeling and why you didn’t extend the invitation. stick with “i feel” statements though, and don’t be accusatory.

Post # 4
Member
47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It seems to me that this early in the process honesty is the best policy.  Since you have been friends with her for so long, I would suggest sitting down and having a much needed heart to heart, before this becomes an even bigger deal.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with telling her what you just told us here.  Explain that in this incredibly happy time you don’t want to force people to share the journey, but how much it would mean to you if she came along for the ride.  Maybe the distance you feel is just something going on with her, but it is better to get it all out there rather than letting it simmer and grow.  Just my two cents.

Post # 5
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I second Kitzy. It’s no wonder she’s hurt. Let me tell you, I never see my best friend, she lives on the other side of the country. We rarely talk on the phone, because we’re not really phone people. We are both busy with our lives, but when I go home to visit, we make as much time for each other as possible. All I’m saying is time together doesn’t equal friendship importance, at all.

Good luck, I hope you can mend your friendship!

 

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with everyone else.  Just tell her honestly what you have been feeling about your relationship and why you didn’t invite her to go dress shopping.  It’s tough when you get older to maintain relationships since your lives are so busy, hopefully you two can work it out!

Welcome to weddingbee!

Post # 7
Member
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Talk to her. It may be awkward and hard, but you always have a supportive community to fall back on here. 

 

Bienvinedos. 

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