My first shocking RSVP response…

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2751 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s up to your dad to handle it. There really isn’t any other way. Just make sure you tell your dad that you don’t want those 2 people to come.  I don’t see how your dad can get ‘talked into’ letting them come if you tell him you don’t want them coming? Who is paying. . .you & your FI or your parents?  If it’s your parents then it shouldn’t be a big deal if he’s ok with them coming. 

Post # 3
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ughhhh. Why do RSVP cards bring out the insane side of people? 

Post # 4
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Whhaaaaatt?? People are SO strange! It’s rude to write in your kids if they’re not invited but at least that makes sense but writing in an employee?!

Do you feel comfortable talking to them? If so, call them and just explain that the invite was ony extended to Mr/Mrs. John Smith. If you don’t feel comfortable (I for one hate talking on the phone lol) than maybe you can be with your dad when he calls them?

Post # 5
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’ve had people invited themself and invite other people to our wedding several times already. And we got a maybe back. While it does really suck to deal with,  consider yourself lucky it’s only been one so far and only 2 extra people. One bee told me of how they had 11 extra people marked as attending on one RSVP card

Post # 6
716 posts
Busy bee

Maybe your father can give this person a heads up that the extra 2 people weren’t in the original count, but if there’s room, then you’re happy to have them.  It may not be too difficult for you to fit in the 2 extra people and you probably won’t even notice them on your wedding day.

Post # 7
725 posts
Busy bee

lol what on earth?! That’s crazy; definitely have your dad talk to them

Post # 9
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

KDOS:  That is REALLY strange. Are you having a big wedding where you wouldn’t notice the extra 2 people? Can you accommodate the extra 2 people? If not, I’d have Dad make the call.

Post # 10
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is really weird. You should probably take that picture down though…you never know who might come across it. 

Post # 11
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

jamb:  she doesnt want complete strangers at her wedding…..

Post # 12
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

KDOS:  People are just so strange.. in what world would anyone think that’s ok?? Even if you can fit/afford the two extra people, why on earth would these two randoms be the ones to fill those spots!?

Ugh people….

Post # 13
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

KDOS:  Oh wow!

Personally I’d get my FI to call lol. He’s blunt, but very pleasant, great to deliver uncomfortable news.

If your dad is like mine I’d be worried about him calling too. My dad is kind of a push over sometimes and would totally feel guilty and probably end up telling them they could come just to ‘keep the peace’.

My advice, you or your fiance should call and express your appreciation for their RSVP but inform them you have a tight guest list and unfortunately there is only space for those who are on the guest list.

Whoops! Hope it works out!

Post # 14
437 posts
Helper bee

oh boy.  what a nightmare.  let us know how it turns out!!

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