My first time…

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Haha you should have said:

“I’m actually not a nice person. I like to kick puppies.”

Post # 5
Member
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@s2bmrscook:  i think it’s so rude for people to ask couples that personal question, regardless of the reasoning behind it.

when they do ask, maybe just keep the answer short and sweet and then change the subject.  you really don’t need to explain your decision to anyone.

i know that my answer caught those noisy nancies off guard.  “i can’t have children”. 

Post # 7
Member
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

We just say that we’re not planning on having kids/don’t want kids. Or, if I’m feeling snarky, “we don’t do that.” Half the time that works, half the time people try to convince us of shy we’re wrong. The usual: kids change you, it’s different when they’re yours, you’d be such a good mom, you’ll change your mind someday. Sigh. I’ll give it one more try with the, we don’t want kids/it’s not for us thing, then I get bitchy. Sometimes there’s no reasoning with people. I’ve heard that telling people that you can’t have kids shuts them right up, but I feel like that’s sort of unfair to actual infertile couples who do want kids and can’t get pregnant. I’ve also said “I have something in my uterus that’s better than a baby.” It’s a Mirena, but usually once you start talking about internal organs people sort of back off.

Side note: WTF is wrong with people? I don’t go around asking people when they’re going to have kid #3 or why they stopped at 4 or whether their sex lives are planned around her cycles.

Post # 8
Member
5483 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@s2bmrscook:  sanctimommyious bahahaha!!! I’m using this!!!

Post # 10
Member
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@s2bmrscook:  I would be so tempted to fire back, “You mean, have we started having unprotected sex yet? No.” Seriously, that is what these people are essentially asking. It would be so funny to see them get all awkward and uncomfortable when you mention the s-word.

Post # 11
Member
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Just tell them you’re not having kids and if they get all huffy about it, that’s not your problem.

Frankly, I think it’s really rude to ask people if or when they’re going to have kids, or how many they want, or any question like that. I’m definitely going to have a child someday, but I certainly don’t want people asking me when or how many I want or whatever. It’s none of their business! Just like it’s nobody’s business whether someone wants to remain child free. It’s the way you choose to live your life.

Post # 12
Member
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsNewDay:  Love it!
I am excited to use a variation of this on my MIL when that crap starts.
I just enjoy bringing the awkwawrd. Then… stare down!

Post # 13
Member
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We do plan on having kids, but I also HATE bein asked about it. Usually something along the lines of “I’ll be sure to let you know once we start having unprotected sex! Do you have any suggestions for positions?” shuts them right up.

Post # 14
Member
2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I always avoided the question by winking and claiming that – we are working on it! Wink wink. That usually shuts them up, at least for a while.  Its nobody’s business if you are having kids or not.

Post # 15
Member
2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2016

im not even married and i already have family members who try to make the argument that i will regret if i dont have children. i have a good amount of family members (extended family from other countries and close family) that have severe  health issues and could be hereditary. im not about to pass those onto my children. its a good chance it could happen and im in the ” i’d rather be safe than sorry” boat. explaining that to even my family who know is hard… 

Post # 16
Member
6884 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I’m also not married yet but get the question a lot from family members and friends. I usually say, “Ask me in five years.”

Once I had a cousin say something alone the lines of, “What’s the point of having all those bedrooms in your house if you’re not going to fill them with kids?” I thought that was an odd question. I responded with “Just because I have the room doesn’t mean I need to fill it with living humans.” Seriously!? I know a lot of people that let motherhood define them and I am not sure if I want that. I don’t think I should take the responsibility of having a child on until I can live completely selflessly (is that a word?, lol).

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors