Post # 1
Hi ladies! I’ll be visiting my first ceremony/reception venue this weekend. I’m taking my parents (who are paying for most of the wedding) and my fiance so we can have a team approach. I found a list of "questions to ask sites" on the Knot, but I was wondering if any of you had other suggestions about what else to ask. My current list includes things like catering/bar details, rain plan, insurance, parking, booking dates, etc. – all sort of fun stuff. : )
Anyway, if you’ve got any recommendations (even if it’s just as far as what to watch out for), let me know. The venue is popular and longstanding (the Dallas Arboretum – have any of you Dallas folks toured there?) so hopefully they’ll have this sort of tour down to a science. Would it be overkill to email them in advance and ask for e-copies of some of their info?
The woman on the phone seemed a little hesitant about letting us tour since they don’t start booking for 2009 until March. However, since we’re planning this thing long distance and this venue is our top choice, we really wanted to get a jump on the planning. Can I let them know how enthusiastic I am about the location, or should I play it cool?…
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be overly enthusiastic about the place even if you love it because you never know if it will end up being your top choice in the end. Plus, if you seem too enthusiastic they may think you’re willing to pay more if you love the place so much. It puts you at a disadvantage for negotiating. Always give them the impression that you’re willing to walk away if you’re not happy with their options.
A few other, less obvious questions you might want to ask include: Do they allow flower petals or other materials on the ground? Can you toss rice, confetti or have bubbles for a sendoff? What is included in the rental price in terms of tables, linens, chairs, glassware and servingware (including cake cutters and extra tables such as cake table and gift table)? Do they include any decorations (some venues include a few votive candles)? Do they have an in-house catering department and is it mandatory to use them? Can you bring in your own alcohol? If you have a pet that you want included in the wedding, is a dog allowed on the grounds? Do they have a cake cutting fee and how much is it per person?
Also look up some tips on wedding planning sites like the Knot and see if they have any suggested questions to ask venues.
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
I would express that you are very interested in the site, she needs to know that this is long distance – maybe let her know just how far. Hopefully this will help her be a bit more enthusiastic about things.
I wish I had a list of questions but I booked the first place I looked at, and it was a total gut feeling. I waled in, fell in love and had to have it. It’s perfect and I knew it right away. I wish my way worked for everyone.
I think that you’ll know – and just remember to stand your ground. If you want it and it’s great for you – go with it. Don’t let parents sway you, just because they are paying for some of it doens’t mean that it’s their wedding 🙂
Make your day what YOU want.