Post # 1
This vent is going to sound so stupid and ungrateful, but here it goes: I’m sad that there isn’t a picture of FI proposing to me. Since we’ve gotten engaged I’ve seen countless posts on Facebook (yes, it’s a terrible site and nothing good comes of it) of “friends” getting engaged and they have photographic or video evidence. I get sad everytime I see one of those pictures pop up, when instead I should be happy for them.
I told FI before he proposed that I wanted it photographed. Not just because it’s the new thing to do, but in highly emotional situations I get scatterbrained. I don’t remember much of the proposal and I at least wanted a picture. He had the perfect opportunity, too. Five minutes before he proposed, a couple on the beach offered to take a picture of us in front of the sunset. FI later told me he was going to do it when they took our picture, but wasn’t comfortable with strangers watching. Which is a totally justified decision. I should be glad he wanted it to be a private moment between the two of us. And I shouldn’t even be thinking about this anymore because we’re getting married and there will be plenty of pictures of that. But I just get sad that I don’t have that. Couldn’t he have at least taken a cell phone video? lol.
I have pictures of right before and right after, when we got a beach photographer to take our picture. This is such a stupid thing to be upset about!
Post # 3
@newcitylights: There are A LOT of Bees in your situation. I’ll tell you the same thing I tell them: I was topless during my proposal. FH swears I was totally naked. It was nothing like the way Hollywood thinks a proposal should be, but we ended up engaged. It was perfectly us and, hey, it makes for an interesting story! Congrats on your engagement, because that’s all that matters after all! 🙂
Post # 4
@newcitylights: Yeps. Time will ease it… till then just focus on being happy. Condition yourself, everytime that negative thought comes, replace it with thinking bout your upcoming wedding!!
Post # 5
Not to say that you shouldn’t be upset, but I feel like this is why Pinterest is bad haha. Nobody did the proposing picture thing until recently, and now it’s like all over the place and people think they’re missing out on something if they don’t have it. You have the memory and you’ll have hundreds of pictures from your wedding, it’s really ok! Most of those proposing pictures on Pinterest are fake anyway, the real ones never look that great…
Post # 6
Its a bit sucky for you that even though you specifically requested it to be photod and he was all ready for it, that it wasnt because he chickened out. However not everyone has photos of the event. I also dont. Noone else was around when FI proposed, and yes we were out in public at a beach park. It was also very nice because it was so us to be in our own little world. We did get two photos before leaving the place (stop on a roadtrip): one of the two of us just there with the view like tourists, the other posed with him on one knee. both pics were posed and we used the self timer. Its not te photo that counts to me, and also my proposal is a blur and i dont remember what he said, but i do remember the feeling that came over me at that moment. it was as if we were suddenly inside a box and i couldnt see past him. The world around us disappeared and the only thing i saw was him and me. and thats something no photo could ever capture. so while i also wish i had the photo, at least i have the memory of the moment that wasnt diluted by trying to live up to the camera.
Post # 7
You should try and recreate it…no shame in that. Maybe do an engagement shoot like couples pictures and have one where he kind of recreates it then you have a picture of what it was like. It is totally understandable that you wanted a photo of the actual thing though…I am just offering suggestions:).
Post # 8
@s2bmrscook: How was it that you were topless? lol! Details please! that is if it’s not a TMI situation 😉
Post # 9
@newcitylights: Really! I think there’s way more people who didn’t get the proposal moment photographed. It’s such a private moment, that is way too too much planning to get that moment photographed! I have an after proposal photo which I think most do. Don’t be tricked that just because you see proposal photos it doesn’t they are the majority. The ones who don’t have them aren’t posting them right?!
Post # 10
@s2bmrscook: That sounds like a pretty good proposal imo!
Post # 11
@s2bmrscook: Excuse me, what? How did this happen? Do tell 😀
@newcitylights: The end result is the same – you’re marrying the man you love. The proposal is one thing that is he and it can be done however he – not you – want. I’d much rather not have a say and know that it is coming from him, not my direction.
Post # 12
Make sure you plan your photographer/ videographer for when the wedding actually comes. Hopefully at that point, the proposal wouldn’t seem as important.
Post # 13
Well, the short version is that he made a fire in the fireplace and told me to get ready for a massage. I know where his “massages” end up, so I figured I might as well be prepared. Needless to say, I was expecting a different kind of “happy ending.”
Post # 14
@s2bmrscook: THAT is an awesome proposal!
I don’t have pictures from the proposal, and I’m actually happy about that. It was our private moment together, and I’m glad no one else was watching. I’ve already forgotten what he wore (he wears sport coats/dress pants to work every day!) but I’ll never forget him getting on one knee and asking me. That’s burned into my brain 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@newcitylights: Honestly I’m a bee who got a public, photographed proposal and it wasn’t really my thing. The whole thing felt quite rushed and because it was in public he didn’t “pour his heart and soul out to me” like how I imagined he would. So coming from the other side, I wish it was more private because that way it would’ve felt more meaningful. Yeah, we have the moment on camera.. but I almost don’t like the picture because it just makes me remember how rushed and in a way, unromantic the whole thing felt. Pinterest and FB pics on engagements always make them look so romantic and amazing, but sometimes it’s not what it seems.
Post # 16
Heck, I got my proposal when we were laying in bed. Without a ring. It doesnt matter, you’re still engaged!