- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Ok so I’m going to go straight to the point here.
I have hired a makeup artist for my wedding day that is responsible for doing my makeup, my FMIL, mom and FSIL. She came very highly recommended by 2 of my FI’s cousins and after the trial, I almost didn’t care how much she charged (which is an arm and a leg…… 600 dollars including 60 dollars for travel which is kind of BS since we live close by, but whatever she’s good) she is fantastic and we are all going to look absolutely fabulous.
Well, it turns out that we aren’t the only ones that hired her that day. The 2 cousins hired her also. Because of this, the scheduling is basically impossible at this point.
I have voiced my concern over the timing that morning multiple times with no response other than demands and “oh well, you’ll have to figure it out” kind of responses. Yesterday we exploded into battle. I’ll explain
One of the cousins is DEMANDING that she gets her makeup done at 11am. The other one wants 10am. The reason for the demands? She has to do it while her baby naps. (I am seriously planning my morning around my ring boy’s nap? you have got to be kidding me). This kid has hundreds of family members. We can entertain him while she gets her makeup done at a reasonable time…..
I have to be dressed and ready to go by 12 and my mother and FMIL by 12:30.
And to top it all off, the 2 cousins not only are demanding those time slots, they have an attitude about it and are taking advantage of the fact that I am paying the artist for transport. Nobody has asked me if they can help cover that (which i’d say no, but come on…..). My FMIL is upset about it because that is going to be a very busy morning and she doesn’t want any extra family in the house until 12:30 when the “pre-party and photos start”. She said it is a precious time between us women that we don’t need interrupted by anyone including family. At this point we all feel rushed and cheated because since those 2 HAVE to have their makeup done at prime time, either my mom or FMIL are going to end up having to do their make up themselves and that is NOT what I’m paying for. I want them to feel like royalty. I am the only child and my FI is their first born son. This wedding is a big deal for them 2 and I’m upset that these 2 cousins are bringing so many issues with this. To top it all off, my FSIL is going to be 8 and 1/2 months pregnant and I’d be damned if she had to drive herself somewhere else to do her hair and makeup.
I sat down with my FMIL and FSIL yesterday and started going over the scheduling of that morning and there is absolutely no way we can all do our makeup with her. She takes a good hour on each girl and we have to fit hair appointments in between all of this. For obvious reasons my immediate family takes priority and I don’t think there is a need to say that I do too… each hair appointment is going to take an hour and that’s if everything is on time which it never is. My hair is going to take about an hour and a half due to it being pretty complex.
I texted the cousins last night saying that it was just simply not going to work out and if they wanted to do their makeup with her, they would have to do it at 7am. Of course that won’t work because of king ring boy. So I straight up told them sorry but they are going to have to find another makeup artist. I am pretty sure my comment was another pearl harbor and I just started world war III. I basically said what we were all thinking and was very much supported by my sis in law and mom in law.
What would you guys do? Am I being unreasonable? I honestly feel like we (as in fmil, fsil, mom and I) are being cheated of a morning together that is pretty important (specially to my fmil) and we are all pretty upset about this. If they wanted the makeup artist to themselves they should’ve never recommended her.
PS. my ears have been ringing all night. The shit talking on that side of the family was probably BRUTAL!!!! and I’m sorry but if the roles were reversed, I would’ve backed away the first time the bride showed concerns on the scheduling. I would’ve figured something else out. Los Angeles is filled with amazing makeup artists. I would not have created such a big deal out of nothing. But that’s just me