Post # 1
… 3 weeks before me. And I’m a little nervous about it.
My florist is a coworker that does (beautiful and inexpresive) flowers as a side gig. She and I used to work in the same office but don’t anymore so I don’t see her very often. Last week, she announced that she and another coworker are engaged. I’m THRILLED for them but I heard from another coworker that they set their date for 8/18/2012. I signed a contract with her back in November for my wedding on 9/8/2012.
I realize there’s not much lead time needed for flowers but I’m still worried. If they get married then go on, say, a 2 week honeymoon, she’s back only 1 week before my wedding. She’s not one to forget about her commitments so I’m sure she’s got it covered but I’m still nervous about getting her best work that close to her own wedding.
So, what do we think? Should I approach her about it? Or should I just trust that she’d bring it up if there were a problem?
Post # 3
@Mrs.DBee: I woud let it go. It sounds like she is already kind of doing you a favor by doing your flowers at a low price (or did I misunderstand what you are saying?). I think she will tell you if there is a problem.
Post # 4
I would give her a card wishing her the best. I would not mention any concern about my wedding, but, chances she might raise the subject herself.
Post # 5
I think it’s reasonable enough to talk to her about it. You could bring it up that you want to make sure that she has enough time to honeymoon and decompress and whatnot after her own wedding…..and if she needs an ‘out’ to not perform services for your wedding, you are giving it to her, or you can offer to help arrange some helpers for her since she might be out of town prior to yours? But I hope it all works out, since it sounds like a great deal for you 🙂
I do think that if there is a concern about performing services for your wedding, it’s totally up to you to bring it up. She might be nervous about telling you she can’t perform, or would rather not, now given her own wedding.
Post # 6
I do not see any reason to bring it up to her or to worry at this point. She’s given you no indication that this is a problem, that she’s easily distracted etc.
If you want to keep a closer eye on her, that seems normal but yeah….people get married every day.
Post # 7
Thank you guys! You bring up some good points. She’s never given me any reason to doubt her. I’d hate to lose her because she’s giving me quite a bargain. I like the idea of gently bringing it up with a card or offer to help so that she has an “out” though. If she is considering breaking the contract, I’d rather know now than later.