- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Let me first say, she doesnt even know me. She’s never met me face to face, even though she lives 5 minutes down the road. She doesnt want to meet me. She wont let me in her house. She doesnt want to come here.
FI warned me when we first got together that his mom was a bit racist. I told him, no problem, my dad is too. Except my dad got over it.
He’s told me that she wont buy a dress for the wedding, and she’ll probably leave as soon as she eats. Okay, fine, whatever.
For Christmas, I wasnt invited to go celebrate with them. Again, fine, I know she doesnt like people in her house. But then FI gets home and informs me that his brothers (black) gf was invited. This girl he’s been with for 3 months gets to go, but I’ve been with my FI for 3 years and I’m still not invited?
But then he handed me a gift bag and said it was from his mom, so I thought “well maybe she doesnt hate me that much…” A chocolate bar. She gave me a chocolate bar. Last year I got her 3 personalized pens (she collects pens) and when FI gave them to her she felt bad that she hadnt got me anything, so she gave him $6 to give to me. This year she gives me a chocolate bar?
I kind of pestered FI, because I was feeling childish, about what she got for his brothers gf. A necklace and a shirt. To his gf of 3 months!
Meanwhile my parents have pretty much taken him under their wings. Even my dad, who used to be SO racist and sucks at giving gifts, sent him a $50 gift card.
I’m trying so hard to not let this bother me, but its tearing me up! I want to be able to take our kids to visit their grandma on Christmas. What am I supposed to do, just drop them off and wait outside? I want to be able to cook a holiday meal and have both of our families come over and eat, but she wont even step foot inside our house.
I’m just so mad right now.
EDIT: I wrote it in a reply, but I guess nobody is reading that. My FI has tried to stick up for me to her. He was going to refuse to go last night, but I told him to go. And he even suggested I go anyways, but I didnt want to cause problems between him and his mom, so I chose to stay behind.