My FMIL is driving me nuts.

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

She’s not just stepping over the line, she’s so far over it its almost laughable..

I get her wanting a say when you accept her money but you didn’t. She forced it on you. The only thing you can your FI can do is act as a united front and make your wishes known, don’t let her steamroll you. Which it sounds like she’s doing..

What a mess!

Post # 3
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


MrsRoberts52:  SUCK! I know my FMIL would have a lot of input in my wedding decisions, so honestly I’m not even involving her. I’m hardly involving my own mom because I want it my way(FI says he doesn’t care how it is, as long as its not hot pink). Its nice of them to pay, but I feel the only reason they are doing this is so that they can have “control” over the wedding and who is invited. This is YOUR day. She obviously had hers and she should respect you and your FI’s wishes for this day. It needs to be a reflection of the two of you, and not her. Hopefully your FI can put his foot down with her and have that be the end of it.

Post # 4
4658 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Oh hell no…. I would not deal with her changing my venue and god knows what else. I hope he sets her straight! Also, I responded to your pm…finally lol

Post # 5
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh my goodness. I’m glad you fiance is handling it. The most important thing is that you both are on the same team.

Post # 6
716 posts
Busy bee

Yes, she is stepping over the line. It was a mistake to accept her money for the deposit, that was her first attempt/means of gaining control. You can not allow her to have her way this. If you allow it now, you’ll be allowing it for the rest of your life.

The message back to FI’s mother is simple. You and FI decided on a guest count and a venue that you are both very happy with. That you for your contribution toward the deposit, it wasn’t necessary, and you’re happy to pay it back, but you are going to stick with your initial venue.

Heretofore, no further discussion of wedding plans with FMIL.

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