My FMIL is freaking out that we're sending invites out today and not sooner

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is 11 weeks before the wedding plenty of time to send invites?
    Yes- your FMIL is being crazy : (34 votes)
    74 %
    No - You should have sent them out already : (6 votes)
    13 %
    Other? (Please explain) : (6 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 2
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think that is PLENTY of time! As long as your wedding doesn’t fall on a holiday or holiday weekend I think 6-8 weeks is plenty of time.

    Post # 3
    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You’re sending them way too early! 8 weeks is the absolute earliest you should send them.

    Post # 5
    6633 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with the PP unless your wedding is on holiday it shouldn’t be more than 8 weeks with sending out invites. Anything longer people will forget

    Post # 8
    3217 posts
    Sugar bee

    oneofthesethings:  Agreed.

    It is too early to send them out.  Aside from the practical side of people not knowing this far out about their financial, and other commitments, people will not return the cards if it’s too early.

    People will wait to know if they can make it, and then completely forget to respond.

    It is also thought by some to be self important.  That you think people will want to prioritize your event, and that you want them to know because of course you are their #1 priority.  I am not saying I agree with that line of thought.  But it will be thought by some.

    If people have other plans, they have other plans.  Many people prioritize weddings, and even if they had plans for a BBQ or something they will change them if they want to be in attendance.

    Post # 10
    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You are going to have some regrets no matter what.   Some people will book their week at the shore a year in advance.  Someon will be moving that week.  It happens.

    Post # 11
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I sent mine out earlier, but I think 11 weeks is still fine. 8 is WAY TOO LATE in my opinion. You want people to come, not already have plans.

    Post # 12
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    LOL I had to resist the urge to click “Your FMIL is crazy” before I read the question. Its just a default reaction after reading so many posts on here.

    I think your right on time. Also if you sent save the dates you already alterted everone that would be making plans.

    Post # 13
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Songstress_7:  I voted other, because I don’t think your FMIL is crazy, but realistically at this point there’s nothing you can do but mail them. People will get them when they get them.  11 weeks is plenty of time.

    Post # 14
    954 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Songstress_7:  I think you’re right, I think here in Canada people send out invitations much earlier than the general population here on the Bee. Usually 3-4 months in advance. I’ve already gotten an invitation for a wedding in the middle of July!

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