Post # 1
I am convinced my FMIL is completely nuts. My FI’s grandma (his dads mom) passed away yesterday. It all started cause she is refusing to go to the funeral because its in a catholic church. its cause of our religion but i’ve been to plenty of other funerals and weddings in churches and ive even asked others and they say its fine as long as we dont partake in the prayers and stuff. this is her husbands mother, she should be there for him! the whole time the woman was in the hospital she never went to visit even and even on that last day she only went a few hours and wanted to go. never shed a tear for her. would barely even comfort her own husband. i realized everyone mourns in their own way, but thats just ridiculous! but then yesterday it all started going down.
i was over there and i went and gave her husband a big hug right away when i got there cause of course he needed one. she freaked and started accusing him of cheating on her with me!!! WHAT?!? she was like i saw you guy yesterday that you kept rubbing his back and you hugged him and your hugging him again now! cant keep your hands off each other! he was in so much stress he just started crying. i tried to stay calm at first but she kept inturpting with stupid comments and pissing me off so i ended up fighting back and tell her “no, his mom just died! any normal person with a heart would realize he needs someone to be there for him which we are trying to be as his idiot of a wife ovibously isnt! thats why i am hugging him! and you not coming to the funeral, or being there for him at all through all of this is just horrible! when your mom dies, im sure you expect him to be there for you. and at this point i honestly hope he pulls all this crap on you. case your pyscho rants and bull s*** are tearing this family apart and with all this stress no one needs this right now!”
so then she of course got even more pissed and tried to kick me out..physically! she grabbed my arm and tried to haul me towards the door. which thats when my FI and her husband jumped in and tried to grab her off me. she tried batting them off and ended up hitting me. I got a bunch of bruises and scratches on my arm now. she threw the vase of flowers i had just bought over at my FI. i ended up getting away and my FI came with. she was yelling after us she was calling the cops on us for abuse cause we hit her which we didnt, was just trying to get her off me. we got in my car and pulled down the block and called to cops on her and told them everything. told them i have physical proof and 2 witnesses of everything. when they came, we came back and talked to them. she actually ended up getting pissed they we against her too and yelled at the cop!! they ended up taking her into custady. i could not believe she did all that. this woman i think needs to be in a pysch ward or something. not the first time the cops had to be called on her and not the first time shes gotten psychical with my FI and once before with me. just a really insane day. absolutely not what anyone needed to deal with yesterday on top of the death.
Post # 3
Ok continuation – yesterday was back at their house. My FFIL asked me and my FI to help make some picture boards for the funeral. She was asleep most of the day but when she finally woke up she came out and saw the card me and my FI had got for his dad and read that. On the card we just wrote it to him cause of course it was HIS mom that passed and then signed it from us two cause WE were the ones that bought it. She freaked out cause we didnt sign her name on it! seriously?! She didnt loose her mom so no reason for it to be to her, and she didnt buy the card and was in no way involved so why would we? no one would expect us to write her name if we were already married. anyway she started getting all mad again and told me to get out. her husband said no theres no reason for me to leave and we were helping him do stuff. she got all mad and was like this is my house and i want her gone. my FI tried standing up for me too and she threw her hot cup of coffee she had just got at him!! all 3 of us left the cause this woman is frickin bat s*** crazy. we got outside and her husband called the cops AGAIN on her! we showed them my FIs arm which now has second degree burn marks from the coffee which an abulence came too and wrapped up. my FFIL said i dont want this crazy woman in my house and they took her. they’re talking about getting her put in a pysch ward for a while cause ovibously there is something wrong with her. she was pissed of course when they took her again. im sure by now the neighbors are saying what th heck is going on?! as soon as they left my FFIL was back in tears. theres already so much stress with the funeral stuff. this is just so much crazyness. i have lost all respect for that woman.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jbbs1222: Ok, that was hard to read!
Does your FI live at home with his parents?
How did your FMIL get out of jail between day 1 and day 2 of this?
Yes, obviously something is wrong with her but you two should probably jsut apologize to FFIL and leave when things start escalating. There is no reason to argue and name call with her when she’s acting that way. It’s not going to help anything!
How is your FI handling this? Is he used to his mom acting this way?
Post # 5
@mchitt329: the only held her a few hours the first time. this time they have her on a 72 hour hold this time. yes he still lives with them. yeh he’s use to it. shes done this crazy stuff a few times before. not the first time the police have ahd to be called. and shes hit him before too more when he was younger. i try to stay calm at first but when she gets going its hard to stay calm too.
Post # 6
I would definitely leave this to FI to handle. It is his family and they don’t need any drama right now. Offer your condolences and help FFIL in any way he asks, beyond that I would stay out of it.
Post # 7
FI and You
FI and FMIL
YOU AND FMIL
I’m the type of person that will talk once… of something doesn’t change… then NEEEEXT.
Don’t stress youself with someone who is not willing to help. And please keep in mind… you are marrying your FI with this issue.. :/
MOVE OUT OF STATE!!!
Post # 8
@Mrs_O: oh trust me we are planning on moving to flordia or california as soon as were married! we told them that and she said we had to take her with…haha no!! dont seem to get shes one of the people were trying to escape!