Post # 1
I’ve have been discussing the scheduling of the rehearsal dinner for my semi-destination wedding over email with her, her ex-husband, and my parents. She actually wrote that she would be fine with scheduling it the night before the wedding or two nights before the wedding and that she would be taking off of work to fly down.
I let everyone know that I needed to find out from the venue when the space would be available for the rehearsal before we could schedule the dinner. It took her a couple of weeks to get back to me because there are other events happening on both days so she had to work out a time frame with those people. I contacted the wedding party to make sure that they could all make it and sent out an email at the beginning of the week with the time that would work.
My Future Mother-In-Law just wrote back “I wish I had known that before I made flight arrangements. I won’t be getting in until later that night.”
What?! You said you were available. You knew that we needed to hear from the venue. You didn’t say anything about already booking a flight.
I just can’t wait to see her!
Post # 3
Ugh! How frustrating! Hopefully, it won’t be so bad when she visits.
Post # 4
I don’t think that sounds particularly nasty, likely just miscommunication and possible frazzled nerves. Travel stresses people out. Just be nice and brush it off, the last thing anyone needs now is tension.
Post # 5
I agree with @KatyElle:. Don’t make too big of a deal out of it.
Post # 6
Luckily she has time to change her flight.
Post # 7
I understand that you are frustrated. But I don’t feel like the tone of the email was nasty. Perhaps there are other issues at foot?? My advice to try to keep things in perspective and perhaps there was a miscommunication somewhere rather than a diliberate act. She will be in your life for a long time, just try to remain calm when you discuss this issue with her.
Post # 8
Wow. You think that’s nasty?! I see nothing wrong with it at all. She just has to rearrange her flight, but she certainly wasn’t being nasty.
Post # 9
I don’t think she was being nasty either…
Post # 10
The problem with non verbal forms of communication such as emails and text messages is that you cannot always tell the ‘tone’ of it.
I’m sure that your Future Mother-In-Law did not mean anything nasty by her message and it may be that she is disappointed and frustrated that her flight means she might miss the rehearsal dinner.
As @KatyElle said, just be nice and I’m sure everything will be fine.
Post # 11
Can she easily change her flight? I hope so! Frusterating on both ends!
Post # 12
If it wasn’t supposed to be snarky, I don’t know why shen sent it at all? She could just change her flight.
Post # 13
@KatyElle: I concur with this, it doesn’t sound ‘nasty’.
Post # 14
Nasty is my in laws telling us they were no longer going to plan or pay for any rehearsal dinner because they didn’t feel like it. I understand why you would be upset but I admit it doesn’t sound nasty to me because of all I’ve been through with my in laws. I’d say let it be 😉 focus on yourself and if others are stressed or seem catty, don’t let it get to you. It may not even be on purpose.
Post # 15
Some flights cant be changed- unfortunetly.. I know this from some experiences.. But IMHO- I dont find this nasty whatsoever..