Post # 1
She doesn’t mean and she is not trying to be rude or upset me but she makes me cry. She doesn’t know she makes me cry but about 1/2 of the time we talk seriously about the wedding I cry as soon as I get off the phone. I called tonight to tell her the catering bid came in and although I’m thrilled with it, I’m just realizing that wedding are just a lot more expensive than I thought and even though I am trying so hard to cut cost its still going to be several thousands dollars more than my fiance and I were hoping to spend. Somehow her trying to be supportive and comforting just stresses me out and makes me hate my wedding. I don’t know how to explain because she really trying to be helpful but somehow she just grates on my nerves.
Then she broought up the centerpieces which are very far down on my to do list because its still 9 months away. She is really into the centerpieces and has started growing us some plants we could use (supportive) and I didn’t know what the plants looked liked and I was getting confussed because I don’t know the plants and I didn’t understand what she had in mind.
I don’t know what to do. My FI lives in another state so I really do need help but she really upsets me sometimes. It just takes all the fun out of planning and makes me dread the wedding.
Post # 3
wedding planning can be overwhelming. it doesn’t sound like it’s fmil that makes you cry — it sounds like the stress of the wedding. can you take a break from planning for a week or two? don’t even talk about the wedding, spend a lot of time relaxing, and then come back to it. and make a prioritized to do list – that helps me a lot to keep from drowning in wedding planning.
Post # 4
You guys need margarita therapy bonding:-)
Post # 6
If talking to her about wedding stuff stresses you out – try not to talk to her about it until your ideas are solidified and set and stone.
The more input you have from different people the harder it is to not get stressed.
Take a deep breath everything will work out!
Post # 7
Thanks for listening, I probably do need a break. My FI comes home for a month next week so I’m hoping I can just let him work on it for a while. I really should avoid talking to her when I’ve had a set back or feel stressed. I need to get better about just making decision and not discussing ideas. She had a specific STD card in mind which I didn’t want to do so yesterday at lunch I went to vistaprint and made them and ordered them and was done.
This sounds silly but I grew up with just my dad so I don’t think I really understand the mom relationship. I’m used to my dad and his simple logic.
@FMILady haha thanks for the laugh! I wish, unfortunately she is none drinker