Post # 1
Are driving me nuts. This is purely a rant!
Basically her husband is a loser. He doesn’t work (refuses to get a job. HER wealthy parents even offered to pay for him to go back to school…he won’t.) He apparently (by what my friend tells me) lays around all day, doesn’t help with the housework and lets his kids do whatever they want without much supervision. The kids are 3 and almost 2.
My friend recently got a job where her shifts might go a little later than the dayhome accepts kids until. So she asked me to pick up the kids from dayhome after I get home from work, take them to their house, watch them for up to 2 hours and then carry on with my evening. I live only a few blocks away, so she thought it would be convienent.
I asked if her husband got a job, and if that was why he couldn’t do it. She said no. She doesn’t trust him home with their children. UMMMM WHAT?!!!!!! Wow.
Anyway, I said that my evenings are busy, which is mostly true. She begged and said “pleaseeee!!! I’ll pay you!!!!” I obviously stuck with my answer.
Arg! Please tell me y’all have a friend with a loser husband?!!
Post # 3
WHAT?!?! That is insane!!! She wants to pay you to watch her kids while, what, her husband sits on the couch watching TV ten feet away from you??!
I did used to have a friend with a terrible boyfriend (not husband thankfully, though they were engaged for a time). He was just every brand of awful, but the worst I think was that he had this habit of sitting with his mouth hanging open. Like, I could forgive everything else, but the mouth-open thing was just too much. And they would always break up, and I’d be all “awww, honey, I know this sucks but really I think it’s for the best!” And then of course they’d get back together and we’d be right back to suckville. Then she moved away and I made NO effort to continue the friendship long distance. Haha I can still picture his stupid mouth hanging open. Gross.
Post # 4
@Ryansgirl: There is always that one girl friend who dates a loser at some point, This guy takes the PRIZE though! Some of my girlfriends have dated douchebags in the past, but nothing that involved not trusting him with his own kids or being married to the arse. Sheesh!
Post # 5
Glad you stuck to your guns and said no. These kinds of things can be a slippery slope, too, where before you know it you’re the full-time daycare. It sucks for the kids, but this is a problem she put herself in, other people have no obligation to bail her out of it. The husband just sounds like a s#it human being.
Post # 6
@iarebridezilla: Yeah I didn’t even think about where her husband would be…ugh!!!
LOL his mouth hanging open…I know the look. Totally dopey!
@Flanders: Her dad told him that if they proposed, he and her mother would buy them a house. Yeah. It’s like that.
Post # 7
If the family has money, why doesn’t she just pay for a nanny? Most likely she’s too embarrassed to get a stranger to do it.
Post # 8
@Everdeen: I’d be more embarrassed to ask friends to do it. At least nannies are professionals and usually discrete!
Post # 9
Omg! How awkward for you and seriously?? What a lazy, lazy husband.
is there something else going on….like why wouldn’t a father be trusted to look after his kids?! Is he a drug addict?
Post # 10
omg that is the saddest thing!!! what kinda marriage/partnership is that??!!! and now she has kids with that loser. so sad 🙁
my friend is dating a total loser idiot at the moment, im hoping for her and everyones sake she doesnt marry him or get knocked up. but time will tell.
good on you for sticking to your guns and not babysitting her kids while her lazy useless husband watches tv aaall day!!!! WTF!
Post # 11
@Everdeen: Well my friend is very open with the situation and from what she tells me, her parents are already paying for the dayhome. She’s always paranoid of her husband flirting, so I bet she doesn’t want a nanny in the house. Maybe I should suggest a Manny…lol.
@PinkPinstripes: Not a drug addict, I think he’s just really lazy and immature. He’s in his late 30s though and she’s in her early 40s…it’s very strange.
@nearlymarriedlass: It’s totally sad. Whenever we’re together, her and her husband bicker like they’re in private. It’s so embarassing for whoever else is around. My husband doesn’t even want to go to their house for dinners or have them over anymore.
Post # 12
WHY would you have kids with someone and then not trust them to watch the children for a measley 2 hours a day?!? I would’ve just gotten a sperm donor…
Post # 13
Wow. I wouldn’t want to be friends with a man who can’t be trusted with kids for a couple of hours let alone married to one. Gah.
Post # 14
@Ryansgirl: Hold on. So your friend wants to pay YOU to watch HIS kids? I am assuming these are not their mutual kids but kids from a prior relationship. There is so much wrong with this. Have you sat her down and been all, “Oh honey… No…”
I can see your frustration!
Post # 15
Eeee. That’s mega awkward. Good for you for saying no. That’s a whole can of worms you don’t wanna be in the middle of.
Seriously though? She doesn’t trust her husband around his own kids? Isn’t that like a GINORMOUS red flag?!
Post # 16
@MrsNewDay: No no. They are both the biological parents for these two kids!
@jlc3: Honestly, I think that since she was “getting older” and was desperate to have kids, she settled for him…how awful of me to say that, but unfortunately I think it’s true.