Post # 106
The expensive gift would put me off. Showing up to my house unannounced is kind of weird, I wouldn’t like that. Flowers, yes very nice. If he calls you in the middle of the night, maybe he does that to his dates. That would actually make me mad because I get up pretty early for work and simultaneously would creep me out unless he’s a night shift nurse just wanting to say goodnight.
He needs to take a break from dating because the fact that you know he’s desperate to find his other half means it’s showing and very palpable to others. All of this combined means no more dates from most people. He needs to be comfortable with himself first. Otherwise he’s not going to have any luck.
Post # 107
anabee323 : “It’s not about playing a game (I hate game playing), but about actually having self-respect and being selective by evaluating whether you want to be with someone before you jump in. If you need an example, think about whether you would invest your life savings into a business without doing any research…you wouldn’t. Well, the beginning of the relationship is similar…taking time to get to know and evaluate the person and whether you are a good match is your research. Why would you invest your effort and your life in someone if you don’t know whether they are a good fit? No normal person would. This is why people need to take things slow.”
Post # 108
texasgal747 : As hard as it is, he just has to keep being himself and power through. The one thing I see too often is someone compromising themselves to rush something. It is much better to stay in the moment, focus on his family and strengthen relationships with his friends (like you and FI), and live an honest life. I hate how everything is a big game. If you feel something, express it. If the other party isn’t interested, then that is great to learn it so soon and not be tied up forever. He has a good heart, and a mature woman is out there for him. The best thing you can do is help him stay true to himself.