My friend is getting married… 6 WEEKS BEFORE ME! SOS

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I think your worried are ridiculous. I don’t see why it matters! It’s your wedding! no point in comparing no matter how close together they are 🙂

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

That’s not even the same month! (Duh, you said 6 weeks, but…yeah, to reiterate…)  You’ll be fine.  Just make sure your overlapping bridesmaids aren’t super stressed out.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m getting married in November and a very good friend got married last week (I was one of her bridesmaids although she isn’t one of mine). If my feelings are any indication then what you’re feeling is pretty normal. I worry that my wedding isn’t going to be as fun or as good as my friend’s was. When I’m thinking clearly I know that’s completely ridiculous and my wedding will be awesome too. Your wedding will also be awesome!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

SophieFrancisW:  Yes I have experienced this but from the other way around.

My husband and I had only 1 date to choose from at our venue.  Turned out that it was 1 WEEK before our friend’s wedding.  To be fair, they had not communicated that to anyone yet, and I found out after we booked that it had happened, but in the end, the only people who knew of both weddings were about 5 mutual friends, some of which were in the wedding party for wedding 2, but not for wedding 1. 

I felt badly for scheduling my wedding so close (and in advance!) of theirs, but when there’s nothing you can do about the date, people need to be understanding.  It ended up not being an issue at all.  People had a great time at my wedding, and they had a great time at our friends wedding.  You forget that your friend’s wedding won’t include your close friends and family, FI’s family, etc.  So you will NOT be upstaged.

Plus, being concerned over a 6-week gap is definitely over thinking it.  There are only so many prime weekends in a year, and they will get booked up.  Don’t stress about it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

SophieFrancisW:  Shoot… It is what it is. Who knows why she picked that date. It may have meaning to her & her FI, it was the only date available, it worked for her and her attendees… Either way, her date is set in stone & so is yours.

I don’t think it will overshadow your big day. You each will enjoy your wedding days and this thought you’re having now will eventually evaporate. You’ll look back and wonder why this was so important for you to worry about. Just enjoy planning your wedding day and preparing.

If anything, it could be a financial inconvenience for the people who have to attend both (including bridesmaids). Weddings are not inexpensive as a bridal party attendee. But, that’s another topic in and of itself.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

SophieFrancisW:  I say you need to calm down. My best friend and I got married 3 weeks apart and we were fine and we had bridesmaids that were in both weddings. We simply just coordinated bridal showers, etc so they would not be on the same day. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

SIX whole weeks? You can’t be serious. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Six weeks? Are you serious? Chill. There is plenty of joy to go around- it’s not like they’ll still be hungover from wedding 1 or anything.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t think it’s a big deal. I was in a very close friend’s wedding 8 weeks before mine (she’ll be in mine), and attended another one 6 weeks before. 

The only bad part is scheduling conflicts, and understanding that not all of our mutual friends would be able to make it to every wedding event (bridal shower, bachelorette) due to honeymoon scheduling or lack of vacation days.

My friend that got married 6 weeks before me (I’m getting married in exactly a month) was gracious enough to come to my bridal shower which was the Sunday before her Friday wedding. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Someone said to me “I hope your wedding is before ours, so we can make ours better.” Just think of it that way 😉

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

SophieFrancisW:  it might be a little hectic during those weeks, but try to have a positive attitude and think of all the lovely bonding time you will get to spend with your best girls. When you are all busy with families/kids and aren’t getting the same quality time together, you may just look back on this time with fondness. 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

gelaine22:  MrsBuesleBee:  I normally agree with your sentiments, but in this case I’d be worried about the overlapping bridesmaids.  Weddings are expensive to be in.  

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Also I just feel bad for people who would not be able to make it to every wedding and feel like they have to choose between two friends (even just being a guest can get expensive if it’s not local). There are 4 weddings thus summer in my group of girlfriends from college, and I am not holding it against anyone if they can’t make it to mine. 

If there are overlapping guests, are they going to have to travel for both? It’s so much easier when it’s local or a close drive away. Unfortunately for our group we all scattered around the country after graduation! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

peachacid:  The weddings are taking place in a year’s time.  Hopefully the bridesmaids will be saving money now for both weddings.  I am a BM for 2 weddings in a row (1 week apart) and, while it has been a bit challenging in terms of planning for both events, i had enough notice to save money and have had to budget accordingly.

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