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ya know it seems to me that your phone has been having some trouble lately... yes? I mean you haven't been getting voicemails for 2, 3 days after they're left lately if they ever come at all! stupid *insert wireless carrier here*!
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@corgi: Ha! I think I may have to use that one :) Thank God I didn't actually pick up the call.
Hahah Corgi I love it!
Who's to say you even check the message in time - you had a really busy day and didn't check it until tomorrow morning oops!
In all honesty though she is expecting WAY too much of you!
Wow, I wouldn't even *ask* my BM's to do that!! I mean, it's one thing if it's her wedding day and she accidentally left her veil at home, but she's being way too needy. I would just tell her flat out no, or encourage her to as a BM.
I totally forgot my veil for my hair trial and I couldnt' care less. Actually I didn't really forget it, I decided not to bring it because it was too much of a pain to bring on the bus to Philly and carry around all day. And WTH about all these registry updates?? She is going a little nutzo!!
Oh, thank goodness I'm not crazy and peeps agree with me!
I was starting to think I was a bad friend or something, but deep down I knew she was just wedding crazed.
She might not realize it being self absorbed in her wedding, but it will be healthier for your friendship if you tell her no on some things. You might want to think about if it's better to have a talk pointing out her ridiculous unrealistic expectations, or just start saying, "Gee, I just can't today. Wedding season is coming on strong. And I'm swamped." But you need to stand up for yourself. And you might be doing her a favor too. Maybe she's doing this to others (even in a different form of bridezillainess). Her future self might be thankful to have gotten her bride self knocked straight before permanent damage was done.
Good luck.
@tanya: Yeah, you make an excellent point. I've told her no on a few occasions (when she asked me to go on the second long trip to see a dress, I flat out told her, "I'm sorry, but I just can't."). So I feel bad saying it more than a couple times per month. But you're right!
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Urgh! I've actually posted about this friend in the past. She's getting married this summer, and I adore her. I'm incredibly happy for her and can't wait for the wedding to celebrate with them ... and to be over!
I hate saying it because I despise this word, but she's become a B-Zilla.
When she doesn't talk about the wedding, she's her normal, calm, wonderfully lovable self. During wedding talk, it's a whole other story.
So far, she's:
- Sent FB messages to her guests with updates on their registry. And no, they're not mistakes. If they've added a crockpot, we all get to know about it.
- After spending an ENTIRE day with her visiting about four bridal salons in the city, AND spent half a day driving to a salon that was 90 mins each way, she got upset with me when I wouldn't drive ANOTHER 90 mins with her to see yet another dress in a far-away location.
- I'm a wedding vendor, and of course I would love to help her out with her wedding! I'm more than happy to, in fact, and of course I won't charge her any fees. BUT, she's totally taken advantage of it, and I had to tell her that my full-time job isn't planning her wedding. In the end, she understood, but she have me some 'tude about it.
Just now I got a voicemail from her that more or less demanded I drive 30 mins each way to her house and overnight her veil because she's out of town and doing her hair trial tomorrow. Should I mention that I work 8-5, and get home at 6 p.m. after a long commute? From my house, it's a 30-min drive to hers (without traffic, which there always is), not to mention I work most nights as a wedding vendor (which I'm doing tonight). She knows all this. What gets me the most though, is that in her VM, she said, "I need you to ... " and never once said, "Thank you, this would be a huge help" or "Could you do me a favor?"
Technically, when it's all said and done, I could do it for her. It would just be a huge inconvenience to me, and I probably wouldn't get home until 10 p.m. I haven't decided yet.
As a former bride, I get the stress. I really do. But she's just ridiculous! Mind you, I'm not even in the wedding party. I just needed to vent because it's always one thing after another.