My friend took a picture of my engagement ring !!! And is going to show everyone
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My friend took a picture of my engagement ring !!!

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    Nicky3    May 17, 2012   NY

    Can anyone tell me why my friend would take a picture of my engagement ring? My mother said not to let anyone take a picture of it ! Now Im worried she is going to foward the picture of my ring to everyone we know . I feel that its my place to show pepole my ring NOT hers. Am I wrong ? Should I ask her to delete the pictrue she took? And it was a close up picture. What happens if she puts it on facebook? I just never heard of anyone taking a picture of someone elses engagement ring. Why would someone want to a picture of their friends ring? Im really upset over this . Am I being to emotional over nothing? Please Help.......

     
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    Adnama54    August 29, 2010   Boston, MA

    My friend did the same exact thing! She actually did post it on facebook and even tagged it with my name and my fh's name! I didn't notice until 6hrs later and when I did, texted her asking to remove it, that some things I wanted to keep private, and only show off to my friends...not her friends who I don't know. 

    She removed the picture and didn't say anything about it. I guess she just wasn't thinking..? Or just materialistic...

     
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    srast    February 26, 2011   Bermuda

    Honestly? I would relax if I were you. You can ask her not to pass the photo around, for sure, but you can't control it beyond that. If there are important people who don't know of your engagement yet, tell them now, before they see or hear it from someone else. But if random people see your engagement ring, what's the harm? Please don't get involved in "she's stealing my spotlight!" drama.

     
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    gcwest    June 25, 2011   Washington DC, wedding in CT

    I think you reeeally need to chill out.  If you're concerned she's going to post all over the internet, you can just casually ask her not to.  My first thought was that she took a picture of your ring because she really likes it and wants something similar for herself?  Or she took a picture of it just because people take pictures of everything nowadays?  I don't think this is a big deal.

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    i dont see why it woudl be a problem at all.  shes happy for you, she thinks your ring is beautiful. your ring isnt private, you wear it on your hand in public every day and Im sure you have engagement pictures and the obligitory ring shot on your FB anyhow. no biggie.

     
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    yrret107    November 28, 2009   Seattle, WA; Married in West Chester, PA

    I agree that you should tell her not to show anyone your e ring.  I wouldn't anyone to steal my thunder.  I wouldn't want anyone to know what my ring looks like other than from me or my FI.

    Plus, I know i was on cloud 9 for a long time after my engagement and would be pissed if my friend was showing everyone my ring instead of me.

    There was another post about this just a few days ago.

    ETA: Just saw that the post I saw last week was you.  Did you mean to double post this again?

     

     
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    ashleed    January 7, 2011  

    Maybe I am wrong but I wouldn't care who saw my engagement ring! I was so excited I wanted the whole world to know so much that I still am after 7 months of being engaged. If its an issue that loved ones don't know yet I can sort of understand. I think your friend was proud for you and probably almost as excited.

     
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    gabrielleelise1981    August 28, 2010   Portland, Maine

    I guess I don't understand what the big deal is; are you keping your engagement ring a secret until a certain time? If its making you upset, you should call your friend and ask her not to post the pic on facebook.

     
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    Marinara    08/14/2010   San Francisco, CA

    I know how you feel.  A friend took a pic of my ring (against my will!) and randomly posted it onto FB before I had even told everyone.  It really bugged me b/c I'm not the type to want to show off my ring, etc.  Just not my style to post a pic on to FB.

    I asked her casually, she told me I was being ridiculous & kept it on.  then I asked her seriously and explained my feelings -- she never responded and kept it up!  Her behavior really hurt my feelings (total lack of regard) and she is not invited to wedding.

    I know how you feel, and if I were you I'd address it! 

     
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    CCSR    November 27, 2010   Arlington, VA / Wedding in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

    Whoa.  Who cares?  You're acting like pictures still your soul or something.  Chill.

     
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    Adnama54    August 29, 2010   Boston, MA

    @Marinara: 100% agreed, I guess some girls just aren't so "omg, look at my ring!" and post it all over facebook. Of course I’m excited about my ring and couldn’t wait to show my friends and family but something about there being a close-up picture of only my ring on my finger on FB irked me...maybe I'm too superstitious:-)

     
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    ktisthatbees    May 1, 2011   Atlanta GA/Charleston SC

    I really am failing to see what the big deal is, unless you are trying to keep the engagement a secret, but clearly if you are wearing it, you are not. She is not trying to steal your thunder, she is probably just happy for you and excited for you and thinks your ring is georgous.

     As an example, if my best friend got engaged, i would take a pic to show it to my parents. They have known her for years, but don't see her all the time and I'm sure they would want to see what the ring looks like.

    If you don't want her to post on facebook, then just ask her nicely, otherwise, why are you freaking out?

     
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    My question is why would she take a pic of your ring?

     
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    kelmac    September 26, 2009   Ontario, Canada

    My opinion would be...relax. I really don't understand why you are freaking out. Consider it a compliment. Maybe she took a picture of it because she was excited for you. Maybe she wanted to be able to show her family her friend's E ring because she was so excited.

     
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    Akennedy01    September 24, 2011   KY

    I have friends that live several hours away and I sent them pictures. One put it on facebook and made a big status congratulating me and FI... I just called her and told her thanks for the congrats and then explained that I hadn't called everyone yet and really wanted them to hear it from me instead of on facebook so she took it down. I don't think she'll be upset if you just explain that you want it to come from you instead of on facebook.

    My friend knew that I was heartbroken when I found out my one and only brother got engaged-- THROUGH FACEBOOK.

     
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    laural    September 24, 2011   Louisiana

    Not a big deal - keep calm!

     

    Just ask her to please not post it on any thing like facebook until you have a chance to tell all of your family and friends.

     

     

     
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    futuremrscrawford    October 2, 2010   NYC

    My friends live all over the country, so I had a lot of people ask "Can I take a picture to send it to Jen/Liz/whomever"?  Or one said "my mom has been asking all about your ring, can I take a photo for her?"  Another friend of mine lives in the south and works in the jewelry industry, and had her friend (whom I hardly know) come find me to take a picture to send to her.

    All kinda strange, but I think people get very excited about engaged friends and their new rings.  After asking "how'd he do it?", "when's the wedding?", the next question is always about the ring - I wouldn't worry about it at all!

    Show that thing off!  I think your friend was probably just excited for you.  and everyone loves taking pictures of exciting things!

     

     

     

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