Post # 1
So my friend is in a bungle and is willing to ask a person she really doesn’t talk to (distant cousin or 2nd cousin or family friends) to be a bridemaid because she is one short. She has friends, but they are all married with kids and she thinks it might not be a good idea to have a bridemaid that is married with kids partnered with an unmarried guy.
I am sure there are brides out there that have come across this problem. How did you deal with it?
Her main concern is that there will be no one to walk with him into the reception and dance with when the bride and groom are dancing together.
Post # 3
I have never, ever heard of a married woman dancing with an unmarried man at a wedding (as an obligation) as an issue. It’s two hours. Both parties can deal with it. I am sure if she asked her friends, she would see how much of a non-issue this really is.
And in the long run, does she really want someone she isn’t close to standing up next to her on one of the most important days of her life?
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I don’t think it’s an issue either. I have 5 single bridesmaids and one that is engaged, and my Fiance has 2 married groomsmen, both of whom are matched up with a single bridesmaid. It’s not like you pair them up with the intention of them falling in love, you know! I would just tell her that it really is a non issue and it happens all the time!
Post # 6
I suggest you change your title – I hope you mean groomsMEN not 2 grooms….that’s a whole ‘nother kettle of fish…
She should ask her friends if they are bothered, not assumed, but I can’t imagine that they would be. (Nor do they need to do more than walk back together, certainly not dance together.) My bridesmaids are all married – one to my brother-in-law (my sister, MOH), another to my brother (my sister), and the third is my cousin. Only one groomsman is married (although the best man is engaged). Not an issue.
Post # 7
@kay01: LOL Thanks! I was doing two things at one time!
Yeah that’s what I said. I think she just needs to hear it more. So keep going!
Post # 8
BUMP – anyone else been through this?
Post # 9
We have 6 groomsmen and 6 bridesmaids…some are married, some are single…none of them are SOs for each other. We have some single men with married women and single women with married men. We also have married paired with married. I don’t think it really matters, as long as you’re not forcing them to be together the whole night.
Post # 10
I have 2 thoughts:
1) there doesn’t need to be an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. It’s fine if there are 2 guys and 1 gal, or whatever.
2) But, if she wants the #s to be even, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with haveing married women as BMs paired with unmarried men. Everyone understands it’s just for the event.
Post # 11
I agree with PP, she should have the people that she wants to be near her and are going to be supportive on her wedding day, and not worry about relationship status.
Out of my bridal party I have one single (but in a relationship) Bridesmaid or Best Man, on married Bridesmaid or Best Man and my 2 groomsmen have been in a commited relationship with eachother for about 8 or so years… none of our friends really care, they just want to be there to support us.