(Closed) My friends sister got proposed to at HER wedding!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be upset if someone got proposed to at your wedding?
    ABSOLUTELY! This is MY day! : (287 votes)
    85 %
    No, I understand it was because everyone was there : (50 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think how they did it was super bad form, but honestly, it wouldn’t bug me if 1) I knew in advance and 2) they didn’t leave!

    FI’s brother just proposed, and I am sure they will get a good amount of attention as a result at my wedding, but I’m really happy for them. Part of it, though, is that I’m excited to have her for a sister, I don’t have a sister.

    Post # 4
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    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    bad bad form! right before the first dance… booo to that. I can totally understand the bride’s dissapointment.

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it’s a bit rude…

    We announced to my fiance’s extended family the day of one of his cousin’s bridal shower. But we waited until AFTER the shower and the bride-to-be had left. The same day was also another cousin’s birthday party, we made our announcement in between the two (during the tear-down of the bridal shower and the set-up of the birthday party). I didn’t even wear my ring until after the shower was over and she had left because I didn’t want to steal her thunder.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would definitely be upset.  There is a right and a wrong time for everything and they definitely didn’t try to be discreet or tactful about it.  I would probably feel bad about being upset and wouldn’t tell anyone.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee

    I don’t have a problem with anyone proposing to someone else at the reception, as long as it kept quiet between the couple in question. But making an announcement to everyone in attendance is rude.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Although I think the bf should have waited til after first dance/toasts etc, I would be happy if somebody *close to me* got engaged at my wedding.  I’ve been at a wedding where this happened later in the evening and it was really nice, actually. 

    That said – if my own sister left my wedding early to look anything up online, I think it would literally take me years (and lots of begging on her part) to forgive her.  That’s just insane!

    Post # 9
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    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Straight up BULLSH*T and beyond rude, not to mention TACKY.  Sorry……but that is my honest to god reaction.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would be upset, especially about the way they did it. Would I be happy if my sister was proposed to and excited about it? Absolutely! But there is a time and a place for everything. And to leave early? Now THAT is the worst part. “Sorry,sis! You’re cool and all, and I sure am glad you got married today, but I have to get home to the internet!” Can she not control her excitement for two hours? Maybe she thought all of the world’s wedding sites would implode if she didn’t get to the ASAP.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow. My fiance proposed the day before two of our friends were getting married. We kept it really quiet during the ceremony and reception, and at the very end of the night, when my fiance was dancing with the bride, he told her. She came barreling over to me, asking to see the ring – she was thrilled. But we made every effort to not at all take the attention away from her. Planning a wedding is a lot of work, and I think the people who have spent the last year (or so) putting the day together deserve to have their moment.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    There are three parts I can’t believe:

    1. That he did this in the middle of what is supposed to be the Newlyweds’ moment.
    2. That the DJ gave THEM the spotlight.
    3. That she was so insensitive to her sister’s feelings that she not only didn’t try to refocus the attentions back onto the bride, she actually stopped celebrating her sister’s wedding to go look wedding things up. On an internet that isn’t going anywhere.

    If it were me I would shit a brick.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

    I would not be happy.  The wedding should be about the bride and groom (or bride & bride, etc).

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    personally i would NOT be paying that DJ if he allowed that to happen without my consent THEN prolonged it by having them have a little dance.

    sorry it might be vain but after all the planning i have done for this damn wedding, if someone did that to me, i would stab them in the heart with a spoon – cuz it will hurt more.

    *humph*

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Well, a quiet proposal would be one thing, and maybe even to be expected with all the warm fuzzy wedding feelings floating around … but THIS was simply unacceptable on every level. To totally steal the focus from the newly married couple and then leave early! That is completely selfish and thoughtless. Make sure to tell your friend there’s a lot of bees angry on her behalf!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would be a little upset if someone proposed at my wedding. However, if someone did that at my wedding I would be really hurt and angry. It was very selfish on many levels.

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