Post # 1
My fh’s brother’s gf’s and i have a rough relationship. We’ve never gotten along and she takes every opportunity to pick at me by manipulating my future brother in law to do the talking to my fh and the family. Because of her my fh and i have been getting into arguments because he feels he has to choose between his brother and me. Eventhough this whole thing has nothing to do with his brother but his brother’s gf. I know we all have in-law problems but i almost want to say this takes the cake that an outsider can manipulate so much drama into the family. It makes me look insane when i say anything because she plays the victim in any confrontational situation. Unfortunately his brother might be in the bridal party. I’ve been taking in a lot and havent complained or said anythign about her but staying quiet doesnt benefit me at all in this situation. Wedding planning is stressful enough i dont need her to meddle with things and stir up trouble. Ladies do you have any comforting words?
Post # 3
If she stirs up trouble with the wedding, i’d tell fh that in THIS situation FBIL gets very minimal say in anything. The day is not about him. I’d let him know that before your fh even decides if he’ll be in the bridal party.
Post # 4
My entire in law family is a hoarde of bi-pedal lycanthropes who delight in tearing the weakest member limb from limb on holidays….I refuse to deal with unreasonable people, and I’ve kindly told them all that unless they can comport themselves with respect, kindness and compassion. They would serve themselves well to abstain from darkening my door….I’m certainly not very popular with my in laws but then again, what is popularity among cretins? I liken it to being the sweetest smelling hog in the pen….at least our lives are peaceful, no one has a right to take that from you, ever.
Post # 5
You want me to kick her in the shins, and run?
Post # 6
@Nona99: I’ll explain this the simpliest way I can. Everytime I read a post from you, I love you more and more.
Post # 7
Araya: HAHA i’ve thought about throwing flour in her face this past weekend.
The most recent situation is stupid really. I was making cookies but was in the middle of taking cookies out of the oven and cleaning up when they come home and see a table with flour on it (where i’d been rolling out the dough) they dont say anything to me. Next day FBIL said to my fh that i had left a mess on the table. Mind you i completely cleaned up and even put the gf’s stuff back to the tee. Needless to say fh got an earful.
Post # 8
My advice to you is don’t day anything else. I don’t get along with my Sister in law and had the a lot of issues with her. About five years ago I took out of my fb, stop engaging with her, at family events I go up to her say hi ask her how she doing and keep it moving. I really don’t call their house, and outside of family events or stuff the kids choose not to spend time with her. It’s saved me a lot of grief. It also meant that I spend less time with my brother. But it’s made for a more peaceful family environment. I haven’t had an issue surrounding her in years, and if she has issues with my I guess my brother shut it down
I don’t call their house, I don’t present any opportunities for her to stir up drama. Mainly by dropping all the issues I have, and to not put myself into places where I have to deal with her pass hello and goodbye.. The fact is you don’t need to like her, if you’re lucky they will break up, if not then you have to have that kind of “relationship” and I use that word lightly to keep the peace and your sanity.
That means don’t invite her to your wedding parties when clearly you guys don’t like each other. Your Fi should be firm and back you up on that with the inlaws.
Post # 9
Ugh, BIL’s (ex)gf was a total pill during our total engagemet. She was such a twit!!! It got to the point where she was going on and on and on one day and I looked at her and said “One of us is waiting and the other has a 1.42 carat ring on their finger. Guess which one of us is replaceable.” she STFU after that.
Honestly there is not a whole lot you can do. I told my (now) husband ecatily what I thought about her and why with examples. At the end of it he was on my side.
How long has she been ‘in the family’ if you have been in the family longer let her know that there is a peacking order and tell her what her place is.
Post # 10
Geez this stinks 🙁 whatever you do don’t let her poop on your parade with her drama.
Post # 11
@Jer72: Right back at you darling!
Post # 12
@kitty126: it’s funny, I had a similar situation with not my FH, but my BOSS! His brother used to call all the time and one day I said “Good morning” on accident about 1 PM.
The next day, my boss came in an said I should look at the clock before I pick up my phone since it’s unprofessional.
… I wanted to slap him.
I feel your pain sister! Best to make sure not to include HER in your wedding party or plans. Let your FI deal with his brother and brother’s gf on his own.
And if the situation such as above happens again, tell your FI to stop being petty and point out there’s no flour on the table NOW, IS THERE?
Post # 13
Posted, but then realized I don’t want this drama online. PMed you.
Post # 14
Best part is she managed to swindle him into getting married right before my wedding.
Post # 15
@kitty126: Oh good grief they got married? So now she’s family?
Ugh! Has she at least changed??