- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
GGGGRRRRR!!!! Oh man. I get it. She, unfortunately in her eyes, had all boys and no girls. When her 2 eldest sons got married, she was able to plan from top to bottom, their weddings and had literally all of the control of those weddings, and naturally expected the same thing would happen when her youngest son got married. I have a wedding planner, my mom is helping me with any “wedding craft” projects. It doesn’t make me want to include her when she asks me if I want to use tulle, I say no, and then at least once a week i still get asked if I want to use tulle, or some other thing that I don’t want to use. And baking a cake, is not something I want done in a house that has been rundown by her grandkids and other son. Yes I know it’s not her fault, but its disgusting, i won’t go into details incase anyone else does decide to read this. But lets just say when the grandkids came to stay the night at our house, we had to wash all of their clothes, and bags because they were funking up our house. And how am I supposed to believe when shortly before we get engaged she says “i’m never baking a cake from scratch, if any of you want a cake from me, I’m only making boxed cake”. So then why would I want my wedding cake to be made out of boxed caked mix? I’ll go find a baker! You can’t tell me that and then get butt-hurt that I don’t want you to make the wedding cake. Today she demands she is able to bring her friend from 30 years ago, whom my FI and I have never known, or been introduced to. It would have been one thing if she had asked us politely like a normal person, but to call and say “i’m bringing a guest and her name is this, and if she can’t come then I’m not coming”. Who does that? Especially when it is your son’s wedding. No family members are helping us with the wedding, it is just me and him paying for everything. What the crap? Then this is all followed up with a wonderful lecture on how I’m rude for not inviting children to the wedding. I explain that FI and I are wanting a more formal event, and were thinking guests with kids would treat this like a “date night/night off”. She says well people aren’t going to come then…yes we know this. We expect this. Good thing for her after the rude-a** lecture we are now inviting family member’s children! She then continues to tell FI and I how she hates everything we have registered for and how boring it is, and can’t believe we want nothing but white, beige and chocolate brown items. Pretty sure we have paint on our walls that is in a color. Pretty sure white plates for every day use will go with anything. She doesn’t have to live with this stuff, it’s stuff we like and want in our home and would appreciate. We then get a text from my soon to be brother-in-law letting us know that she has called many friends and family members to explain to them how my FI and I are negatively treating her. ugh…..I’m literally terrified for when we have kids.