My good friend is getting divorced

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Member
70 posts
Worker bee

flowerofeden:  I am so sorry your friend must go through this but maybe it is for the best. I think you did well by letting her know you’d be there for her no matter what, because she really needs support right now. I would say check on her(call email etc..)every so often but do not over do it (many people like me tend to withdraw themselves from their environment and loved ones). I would also say to stay away from the divorce topic since it is touchy and only talk about it when they mention it

Post # 4
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6614 posts
Bee Keeper

You’re being a really good friend. Just being there to listen can be very helpful and can help you get an idea of what she really needs. As for specific things to do, she might need help packing since she’s leaving so soon. She might also like a girls’ night diversion given all the stress.

Post # 6
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5032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

just listening is wonderful.   Divorce is very difficult.  When I went thru mine there were days I felt completely alone (I was, and still am, the only person in my family to have ever gotten divorced!)

my best friend would call me out of the blue.  She’d ask how I was. . she’d ask what I did that day.  She’d tell me a funny story about her work.  She saved my sanity.  

Post # 7
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

flowerofeden:  

Listen and offer support. Make plans with her to meet for lunch. Be supportive and upbeat. 

You’re a great friend for being so considerate! 

Post # 8
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537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s not your place to say anything to the husband…I’m guessing you know why they’re divorcing, but you need to remember that your only role here is to support your friend. You won’t be doing her any favors by having a confrontation with her soon-to-be ex while she’s dealing with packing, moving, divorcing, etc.  

As others have said, obviously there’s a huge emotional component as well as a logistical component to this situation. Whether she wants to talk/deal with the emotional side is up to her, but she’s most definitely going to need help with the logistics. Just be there to help with whatever she asks, no judgment. You sound like a really good friend!

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