- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
So I have a friend (let’s call her Tiffany). Tiffany and I have been friends for a while. We became good friends in high school but after we graduated high school, she moved away to a different town with her BF and we kind of stopped talking. Which was no big deal to me, I knew that after high school everybody would kind of go their separate ways. We would txt each other every once in a while to ask how each other was doing.
Well she and her BF got engaged and they ended up moving back to our hometown. She asked me to be a BM in her wedding, of course I said yes and we became good friends again THEN she got pregnant and I went back to working full time again and we stopped talking to each other bc we were so busy with our own lives.
Over time my SO encouraged me to have a closer friendship with her (since my job consumes my life and I have no friends) so her and I started going out to lunch, meeting up for coffee. She then started a 4-5 year old Wednesday bible school class at her church and she asked me if I wanted to help her. I was thrilled, we would get to speak with each other more often and I could start up my social life again. My SO was also thrilled and all for it.
Then about two weeks ago she randomly txt me asking me, “what’s your problem?”. Completely caught me off guard bc I didn’t even know I had a “problem”. I replied asking her what she meant and she said that I haven’t really been talking to her much, like I was mad at her. First of all, I had no idea that I wasn’t texting her much. Which her and I never really txt each other very much to begin with so I thought not texting her much was normal between us but I said I was sorry and that I didn’t mean to come off as being mad at her.
Then earlier this week (Monday, the 19th) I posted on Facebook about how my birthday was this Wednesday and how it seems like this year has just flew by. Im assuming that she seen my post and txt me asking me if I was coming to help her this Wednesday (the 21st). I had already planned to tell her on Monday that I wouldn’t be able to help her on Wednesday bc I’m doing something on my birthday but she beat me to the punch. After I told her no I wouldn’t be able to come. She replies with “well you seem to be pretty busy so I will find someone else to help me on Wednesdays, thanks though”
I didn’t know what to say so I didn’t say anything. I mean, I had been dedicated to helping her every Wednesday with her bible class, it’s not like have ditched her every Wednesday. She acted as if I never come and help her. And my birthday just happened on this particular Wwdnesday and my parents wanted to take me to dinner on my birthday. Well now it’s Thursday (the 22th) and I haven’t heard a word from her. I didn’t even get a happy birthday from her on my birthday and she knew Wednesday was my birthday. On her birthday, I got her a card and a little birthday cupcake.
My feelings are extremely hurt. I would really like to tell her how much my feelings are hurt but I’m afraid that will just cause more drama. I was really happy that we had become close friends again and had even told my SO that I wanted her to be my MOH in our wedding when that time came. I even told her that I wanted her to play an important part in my wedding, Im sure she knew what I was talking about and she seemed thrilled.
So what should I do? Should I tell her that my feelings got hurt or just leave it alone.