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I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A FULL FIGURED GIRL EVEN AT A VERY YOUNG AGE.... MOST OF THE WOMEN IN MY FAMILY ALL ARE OVER SIZE 12. ONE DAY WHEN I WAS BEING DOWN ON MYSELF, MY GRANDFATHER TOLD ME A LITTLE PHRASE THAT COMPLETLY CHANGED MY MIND ABOUT MY BODY AND MADE ME LOVE MYSELF FOR WHO I REALLY AM....THIS PHRASE IN NOT MET TO HURT ANYBODYS FEELINGS... THAT BEAUTIFUL PHRASE WAS....
MEAT IS FOR REAL MEN AND BONES ARE FOR DOGS.
DONT YOU LOVE HIM!!! UNFORTUNATELY HES MARRIED ;) HEHEHEH
It is very sweet that he made you feel better!! Women are beautiful at any size and shape as long as they are healthy 
But, um, I am naturally really thin so that phrase actually stings a little for me 
That's nice your grandpa said that to you and it made you feel better but I do think it's mean to thinner women and probably is something you should keep to yourself since it can be hurtful.
I have to agree with ejs and babyboo - It's great that your grandfather was so sweet, and I'm so glad he was able to help you have self-confidence, but as a thin person, it's a bit hurtful to see that.
I'm thin. Not hurt. I think it's funny and cool that he put a smile on your face. All women have issues with the way they look, and ladies, keep in mind that full figured people often have to put up with way more crap than that cute phrase that her grandfather said!
@egb: many of the women in my family are larger and when I hear comments against women who are bigger I also speak out. It is about making ALL women feel beautiful, not making one group feel better while putting down another :)
Like I said to the OP, I am glad this statement made her feel better. Every woman deserves to feel happy about herself. I just don't think it was a correct statement to share with such a large, diverse group of women.
Yeah.. but she did post in "full figured" to share with other full figured women that could smile at it.
I see your point though, about making everyone feel good; but I feel like a way to feel good is also to not always take things so seriously and be able to laugh at ourselves and have humour..
I have to say, I agree with egb. As a woman who is in between "thin" and "full figured", I think it's important to take the comment in the spirit in which it was intended :-)
I am glad that the OP felt better - feeling beautiful in your skin is priceless, and certainly not easy to come by at any size.
I do have to say though that the amount of negative remarks made lately with regard to *thin* women is surprising and disappointing. I certainly didn't expect to see that here on WB . . . nor did I expect that it would be passed off as *harmless* or (dare I say) *socially* acceptable.
If the situation here had been reversed as to the Grandfather's saying (that the saying made a negative inference about a fuller-figured woman), I am sure the response would have been entirely different, and definitely not accepted.
I bet plus sized women wouldn't appreciate it if a skinny woman went on a "skinny board" and posted about how men don't like fuller sized women.
Or if I said, "men like boobs! Not pecs!" cuz i have boobs. See, i could say that but i think that's an insensitive thing to say. And it's not true! Even on a pro-boob board that is frequented by women of all shapes and sizes. I'm using boobs as my example because I don't want to be derogatory towards fuller sized women.
I guess I feel like making yourself feel better at the expense of others isn't the right way to be pro-whatever you are. =\
@MissCosmo, jinx!
@egb - I don't think that it is okay to post negative comments about a generalized group of individuals on any board. The intended audience doesn't make the underlying meaning any less negative or offensive.
@MissCosmo: Thank you. I in no way wanted to make the OP feel bad. And do have a sense of humor about myself (I'm the clumsiest person I know and I fall right into those "dumb blonde" jokes). I just know that if this comment were reversed there would be a lot more people upset and no one would think it was " cute."
But I do apologize, because I didn't realize this was written in the Full-Figured board when I responded.
@BabyBoo: You're more than welcome. I have been biting my proverbial tongue lately and not responding to posts and posters where there have been negative expressions and comments regarding *thin* women, whether the *thin* women are an unidentified general group of people or models in ads for wedding gowns.
And as for having a sense of humor, I don't think anyone would ask a woman who felt slighted by a comment directed at her weight or size (a fuller-figured woman) to find her sense of humor and to learn to laugh at herself.
I am a size 4, very bony and I think that it is cute! Her grandfather said it to make her feel better and she posted it in full figured. Give her a break.
I doubt the OP meant to start any sort of debate. She even gave a disclaimer saying it wasn't meant to hurt anyone's feelings.
I think she just wanted to share a cute saying that has always made her feel good about herself and put a smile on her face.
Thanks for clearing that up. When I read it it did. So way to go OP for adding the disclaimer!
I think it served it's purpose... she never said she agreed she just said it made her feel better about herself... when she was a little girl... that would be like someone posting a "blacker the berry sweeter the juice" comment in the african american section and a large number of caucasian women post on her boardabout how their juice is sweet too... it was not meant for that it was to encourage other full figured women... lighten up... oh sorry someone may have been offended by that comment too... but who cares!??!?!?!?!?
I think grandpa's intention was sweet... he was just trying to make Lybyana feel better about her size! It's better than what my grandfather said to me once as a teenager "so you're starting to pack on the pounds, huh?" Uh... thanks? Love you too!
Although I do see where someone could get offended at that, the fact that it was posted in the full-figured section should be enough to dissuade someone from freaking out too bad over it.
It's kind of like something being posted in the Christian or Catholic board that an agnostic or atheist wouldn't agree with, but that has been posted in it's rightful place and shouldn't have to be defended to someone who happens to click on it.
JMO.
its just a saying geez dont take it to the heart. it was meant for full figures gals and to lift our spirits.
This is the last time I am going to comment on this because I'm getting all kinds of worked up over something so silly, haha.
I apologize, again, for making a comment on a post that wasn't direct towards me. I honestly did not realize it was posted in Full Figured (I just look at all the posts on the first page) and if I had known that I would have kept my thoughts to myself.
I didn't mean to start a debate, but I do want people to realize the post has been changed from its original wording. I wish the OP would have responded to the post instead of changing it because now people are confused.
OP: Remember women are beautiful in any size. There are many out there who will try to bring you down but know there are a lot of us who have you back and will be there to defend you and make you feel great about yourself!!
Thanks @FutureMrsBlocker & Okqueenbee. My point exactly.
We can find offensive things in like, everything that we disagree with if we search for offensive stuff; or see it as what it actually is - a grandpa saying to her granddaughter she's beautiful and.. desirable, I guess. hmmm
women are beatiful in all shapes and sizes and men each have different preferences--skinny, round, curvy, petite, tall, lanky, big boobs, little boobs, no boobs, brunettes, blondes, red-heads, dark skin, fair skin, brown eyes, blue eyes, green eyes, etc etc etc....i just don't think we should put each other down to pick anyone else up.
@LYBYANA: I love it! Its such a sweet thing for your G-Pa to say!
@KingCake: Here, Here!
Wow, I know WB prides itself as being very sensitive to others, but the reaction here seems a bit extreme. It's not like she was calling for the heads of all skinny girls...
um.. seriously?
i can't believe this is even an issue. i'm not full-figured, but it's undeniable that women who are have to put up with a lot more crap about their bodies in our society than women who are thin.. so for the thin to get all 'i'm offended over something that makes full-figured women feel better about their bodies' is a bit ridiculous.. especially when considering the fact that most thin women don't need cute phrases to change the way they see their bodies because mainstream society idealizes thinness.
This isn't a PC vs. Non-PC issue - this is a double-standard issue.
Soooo, if the theory of posting on specific boards effectively negating the offensiveness of a comment was extrapolated out and applied equally, if a thread was posted on the ficticious "Slender-Figured" board that implied that real men preferred thin women and dogs preferred full-figured women, anyone who was offended by the comment would be directed to learn to laugh at themselves and find a sense of humour about the post?
Not hardly.
there is no 'slender-figured' board, because 'slender-figured' is considered the norm.. that's the point--there are no cute phrases to cheer up the slender-figured because social standards cheer them up
I wasn't aware that social standards cheered anyone up . . . I am pretty sure the general consensus is that social standards apply pressure to ALL women to look a certain way and to be a certain person, and that that pressure does not cheer anyone up, regardless of their size.
That's why we should build each other up positively, and not at the expense of anyone or any generalized group. It creates an us-versus-them mentality, as is displayed on this thread.
OH MY GOD, I NEVER POSTED THIS TO SAY ANYTHING BAD TO ANYONE. I HAVE ALWAYS SAID THAT (FOR THE PEOPLE THAT DO KNOW ME ) ALL WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT.... IF YOU DIDN'T REALISE IT I DID POST IT IN THE FULL FIGURED SECTION. AND IT WAS TO TRY AND UP ALOT OF THE FULL FIGURED WOMEN WHO WERE BEING DOWN ON THEMSELFS FOR THIER WEDDING DRESSES. NOW TO ALL YOU BEES OUT THERE, YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY SINGLE WAY... WITH ALL YOUR POSTS AND STORIES I FELL LIKE YOU HAVE BECOME SOME SORT OF A PART OF ME NOW.
THANK YOU TO ALL
I wasn't going to chime in on this but LOL @Kingcake's last post ;oP
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