- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi bees. It’s been awhile but I need some place to write down everything that has gone on these past two weeks.
I’ve posted previously about the situation between my grandma and grandpa. Long story short, my grandma has spent the past 18 months believing my 87 year old grandpa was cheating on her with a restaurant hostess. He had dementia and would say things that were not true. She would pick apart what he said and was convinced he was paying this woman money to perform sexual acts. We caught my grandma yelling and screaming at him on multiple occasions and we feared physical abuse.
Two and a half weeks ago, I received a call from my aunt who said we needed to go down to my grandparents house because my grandma kicked my grandpa out and he was getting in his car. We went down there and it was absolutely awful. My grandma was SCREAMING filthy words, my grandpa would not get out of the car. I had to physically pry the keys out of his hands after he put them in the ignition. We finally got them settled down and I called the DHHR Eldery Abuse line the next morning. She told me I didn’t have many options since my grandma was still cognitive and was his POA. Well, that weekend (two weeks ago) my grandpa fell three times within 24 hours. He also side swiped a car.
Me and my mom went there (a Monday) to check on them and he was sleeping. He would wake up long enough to look at us and hear what we were saying, then he would go back to sleep. He could not clearly form words and his eyes kept rolling back in his head also. It scared us so much my Uncle came down and we called an ambulance. We didn’t know if he had a concussion from falling those three times.
Fast forward to the hospital. He was admitted to the hospital and again, long story short, he was given a very strong anti-psychotic medicine (Haldol) over the course of 2 days. He then became unresponsive. However, the hospital discharged him on a Thursday dispite him being pretty out of it. That night, my cousin decided we needed to take him to another hospital because he was still unresponsive, not eating or going to the bathroom.
He passed away in the hospital on Monday, Aug. 4th. It has been an absolute horror ever since.
We found out my Aunt used my deceased Grandpa’s (her fathers) social security debit card four times. Twice on the day he passed away and twice two days after. We confronted her and actually got her cable shut off because that was one of the bills she paid with his card. It was turned off yesterday. She flipped out on everyone and has since deleted and blocked most of us on Facebook (very mature, eh?)
She also pretended to be my grandma and talked to the doctor and had a prescription of Xanax filled and sent to a pharmacy. Luckily, that pharmacy called my grandma and told her the pills were ready-so we got them before my aunt did.
We are all planning on filing charges against her, but my grandma does not want us to.
Another thing that has happened that is very upsetting to me is my Grandma (and aunt) have been telling people that me and my mom are the reason my grandpa passed away. She said we overruled her about taking him to the hospital, and if he never went, he would still be living. This has hurt my feelings so badly. We finally talked about it last night and she apologized, but I can’t help but feel hurt still.
I don’t even know what the point of this post was. I just felt like I needed to write everything out. Thanks for taking the time to read it, bees.