- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hello, hello, again, fellow Bees! Yet ANOTHER post, haha, as I have so many questions about my upcoming wedding.
I’m going to try not to make this too long-winded, but I wanted to give you some background first before posting my question:
My grandfather (mom’s father) and I were extremely close. (As were my grama and I, who passed in 1996.) I lived with my grandfather for 11 years. He was in the Air Force for 38 years, the fire department for 50 years, very active in the community, and all-around was the best influence on me above anybody else. (He instilled manners, work ethic, emotional support, everything.) He fell ill in 2008 with metastatic colon cancer. From that point on, I was his primary caregiver, even when his own three sons did nothing for him. I took him to all his chemotherapy appointments, miscellaneous appointments for diabetes, took care of the lawn, did things around the house for him, etc. During his final days when he was on home hospice care, I even had to change him a few times (which led to a severe emotional breakdown as I never thought I’d see the day where the roles were reversed.) When he passed away, my world was forever turned upside down. Nobody meant more to me than my grandfather, my Poppy, or Pop for short.
With all that said, I am extremely tear-jerked about him not being able to see me married and dance with me at my wedding. So I was thinking about having a special dance for him and having the DJ play him and my grama’s anniversary song, Kenny Roger’s “Through The Years.” I’m just wondering who I should dance with. I have two Godfathers…One that is my official Godparent and one that was a stand-in because my official Godfather was away at the time. Should I dance with one of them as a stand-in for my grandfather? Should I share the dance? It should also be noted that one of my uncles isn’t actually my grandfather’s natural son…My biggest fear is having one (or both) be upstaged. Would it be a good idea to just pick one of my uncles and NOT mention the Godfather part? Should I share the dance between the two of them? Or should I not do the dance at all? Any suggestions would be very very appreciated! 🙂