(Closed) My grandma is driving me nuts :(

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe everytime she begins to discuss it get up and walk away while she’s mid sentence?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Or pretend you can’t hear her. If you revert back to obnoxious adolesent behavior do you think she will drop it?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh. I’m sorry. 🙁 Have you told her that she is not to discuss it with you anymore and that when she brings it up it will be your cue to get off the phone with her?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Even though you love your grandma and want to respect her you need to love and respect yourself more so that if people are hurting you and you can’t cope you can do what is best for you! I’m sorry though, it’s hard. Hold your ground.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mandy102:  Im about the same weight as you now. 205. 🙂 My heaviest was about 2 years ago at 230. Congratulations on making positive changes!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My family does the exact same thing to me (mom, aunts, older cousins). I still get really upset about it and dread seeing them when I think I’ve gained weight or maintained. I totally understand where you’re coming from and it sucks.

For me, I try to think that they come from a different time (and in my case, a different culture) where looks are very, very important. I try to be conscious of their different perspective I have to keep reminding myself that I think my body is fine (though I could stand to lose a few pounds) and that I’m working towards my goal. I try very hard to ignore what they say and just say, “mmhm, okay, mmk, I’ll try that weightloss idea” (they’re always telling me I should try random foods to lose weight, ack!) just to satisfy them and get them to leave me alone.

Because I’m close with my mom, I told her how I sometimes dread seeing her after a few months because I’m afraid of what she’ll say about my weight. I ask her not to say anything ever and I tell her that I’m very well aware of what I look like and I’m doing the best I can. Unfortunately, she sometimes can’t help herself and says, “I know you told me not to say anything buuuuuut…”

Just try to ignore it 🙁 I know it’s hard. By the way, great job on losing 70 pounds!!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mandy102:  You really don’t need to live up to her expectations. I know (or at least assume) you respect her and her opinion a lot and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But remember she’s just a person and every person has their own opinions. Besides, you are on your way to losing weight! It just takes time. It’s hard for a lot of people to get that. I’m trying to lose 30 pounds and even -I- have a hard time grasping the concept that, “HEY! It takes more than a week to lose weight!!” 

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