Post # 1
My grandma passed away last night (Tuesday 3rd). She was 96 and my mom was with her (this is her mom) in the nursing home. Her 3 brothers were not there (although they could have been). She was very spunky and “with it” until she was 95 – living alone in fact. However, she fell and broke her hip last fall so that was the decline of everything and the world of nursing homes. She was lucky to make it that far!
H and I found very normally price tickets to fly to my mom and sisters (we bought them today Wednesday and leave Friday – amazement). We’ll be able to attend the funeral and the burial (different dates and states). We’ll be gone 6th-10th.
Previously, my H and I also had booked tickets to San Francisco 10th – 14th. So yes the trips overlap one day. He is going for a conference for work; I was going stay in hotel and see my friend who lives there. Just a little vacation. When we land here in our state, he will just stay at the airport and catch the next flight out to San Fran. Worked paid for his ticket; I used my personal Delta miles for my trip to SFO.
I have a few options and I’m torn.
a) cancel the flight and get all my miles back at no cost (so this means I’d just go back home alone for 3 days and say good bye to H at the airport)
b) still go on the trip, but pay $150 to change the flight around (we’d both stay at the airport and just book the next SFO flight). Oh, plus any difference in tickets too I think.
I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know what I feel like doing. I don’t want my dog to be in day care for 8 days total either, but she won’t mind. It’s more me. I’d have to check in luggage now ($25 each way) if I do this back to back trip (otherwise, I’d get by with a carry on).
If I say good bye to H at the airport, then I go home alone for 3 days / 2 nights. Not a huge deal, but it’s hard to gage what I’m going to feel in 6 days.
Post # 3
I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. Sounds like she had a full and healthy life! I’d pay the change fee and go have fun, and then try to pack in a carry on. 8 days shouldn’t be that hard to pack in a carry on… I pack for 2-3 week trips in a carry on all the time.
Post # 4
@pinkshoes: Thank you! She did live a long life and was very healthy most of it. I know people lose loved ones more tragically and too soon (like my dad). I’m trying not to be sad, but it is what it is.
Chicago will be like in the 20s where as SF will be in the 50s. Do you think I can still do a carry on? I’ve been pinning packing mix and match things on Pinterest lately. I just haven’t applied it to my own waredrobe.
Post # 5
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I’m really sorry to hear about your grandma. Mine passed away recently, too, and I know how hard it is. I would pay the change fee!
Post # 6
@sienna76: I know, it’s hard not to be sad not matter what when you lose someone. I thought my great grandmothers funeral (she lived to 106) would be a breeze, but it was still really hard to not be sad and not shed some tears. Yea, I think a carry on is still do able. You can wear your heavy Chicago coat so that doenst take up suit case space, and then underneath is probably about the same for both cities, a few sweaters. And then maybe toss in a light jacket. Do you have a light down coat? Those squish to nothing and is perfect for 50s.
ETA: Also if you have a small weekend duffle or tote, that could count as your purse/peronal item, and you can pack some things in that too if you need a little more space.
Post # 7
I would call the airline with your sob story and try to get out of the change fee. Maybe you can cancel then re-book the later flight with your miles without calling it a change.
Post # 8
@almostmrsj: Wow, so I called them up to see what kind of damage are we looking at if I changed the SFO flight to later in the day, and the moved it with no extra fee – only due to the funeral. That is so nice. So we land in SLC at 5:55pm and take off again at 8:55pm. Enough to get dinner together.
Post # 9
@sienna76: I’m so sorry for your loss! and I understand why you’d be torn!
If it were me, I’d probably want to recharge after the emotional trip vs. stay in a hotel – although, if it were a city you were excited to visit + the friend you were going to reconnect with… that would pull me towards the trip. Also, if you aren’t someone who likes to spend time alone, I’d say definitely go to SF.
Post # 10
@sienna76: I’d pay and go w/H. You’ll probably be emotional so you could use a break from work etc and won’t want to be alone. The $ is worth your sanity. So sorry ab your grandmother.
Post # 11
@sienna76: There are nice people, even at airlines.
Sorry about your grandma, glad you can get a couple days to relax.