- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Maybe I just need to vent a little bit.
My grandmother (mom’s mom) is from a VERY small town, where everyone is related, and everyone is invited to weddings. Seriously, my cousin’s wedding last July had a guest list of 650, and 482 showed up.
My FI and I are getting married at my parent’s lake place on July 10 (8 weeks from Saturday!), and wanted something much smaller. Unfortunately, our guest list balooned to 289, which I’m still kicking myself over. We’re hoping that 150 will show up… since the restaurant seats 160 (including the patio) if it’s nice out, or 100 (all inside) if it’s raining. The ceremony location is on the shores of the lake, and is a little bit of tricky footing, especially if you’re older.
We chose the ceremony site because we only had about 10 people 60 or older on the guest list. We’re making special arrangements for my grandparents, and a few great-aunts and uncles that I am close to (as in, speak to or email with 4 times a year).
My grandmother, who is in failing health, is now INSISTIENT that her brothers, who are all over the age of 80, and whom I couldn’t pick out of a line up, be invited to OUR wedding. The one WE are paying for WITHOUT help from the family. Like YELLED at my mom last night about it.
I’ve repeatedly said no, the restaurant is at capacity, we’re already screwed if there is rain to some of my FI’s mom’s late additions to the guest list. And my FMIL has taken it in stride. Now my grandmother adds people, and I throw up the old people/ loud/ hot (July outside) wedding/ not handicapped accessible and my grandmother will absolutely not let go of it. And what kills me is that she won’t speak to ME about it, she just keeps yelling at my mom (her daughter) that I’m being rude and inconsiderate of her wishes (HELLO GRAM, we’re renting a golf cart for the specific purpose of transporting YOU to the ceremony location!).
I’m mad. I’m mad because despite a lot of good reasons, I think I’m going to get backed into a corner about it and end up inviting them. And then my parents will spend more time getting my mobility challenged grandparents/ great-aunts and uncles seated at our wedding than they’ll spend with me or their guests.
Any advice for how to swollow such a bitter pill? vodka?