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My grandpa passed away Thursday morning surrounded by my family and I. He suffered so much and watching him slowly die in front of us was horrible. He was buried exactly how he wanted and his service was beautiful. Starting off the new year without him has been horrible and I worry about my grandma. She suffers from depression and I know that once we all leave back to our own homes she’s going to get really bad. She is helping my uncle raise his son so he will be a big reason for her to keep going but if by chance he isn’t and she gets severely depressed I don’t know how my family can handle more heartbreak. I just need to vent and get things off my chest. I’m grateful for having had 23yrs with my grandpa and to have had him be at my wedding and for having wonderful memories with him and my LO but life just sucks sometimes….
Post # 3
@MrsDPal811: I’m so sorry about the loss of your beloved grandfather. 🙁 I’m sure this is a very difficult time for you and your family, particularly your grandmother.
Post # 4
@MrsDPal811: I’m very sorry to hear about your loss.
Post # 5
She will grieve and mourn his passing and this is healthy and natural. Grief comes in waves; sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. Be there for her and allow her to grieve in her way. Ring her every few days, see her when you can; the best thing you can do is be there for her and let her feel sad about it.
I lost both my grandparents last year within four months of each other; I’m miss them and feel sad sometimes but I know they are in peace wherever they are.
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Brielle– Thank you and it is very difficult for my grandma. They would have celebrated their 44th wedding anniversary on the 26th of this month.
smileyme– I had to head home yesterday since my DH had to come back to work today. I live 4hrs away. My uncle and aunt are still there with their kids and we still have some other relatives that are there visiting. My parents live a couple minutes away and so does another uncle and aunt and their son. She hasn’t been alone and we’ve let her cry. We’ve all been surprised as to how well she was handling the death of my grandpa but we think that it is only because she has been surrounded by loved ones. I know it will hit her hardest once they’ve all had to go back home and resume their everyday tasks. I miss my grandpa. We stopped at his grave yesterday before heading home and how I wish I could take him back home and see him in his chair by the living room door, the kitchen table at his spot or laying in bed sleeping like he would. I keep reminding myself that he isn’t suffering and he’s living it up up in heaven pain free. I’m sorry for your loss as well. I can’t imagine losing my grandma so close to my grandpa. Up until recently I was sure he wasn’t ever going anywhere.
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- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Hopefully your grandmother will be okay; people are resilient sometimes in ways that surprise us
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Caroheart– That is what I am hoping for..
Post # 9
@MrsDPal811: I am so sorry!
How does your grandma handle the phone? Perhaps you can set up a weekly time to call her, or people can try checking in with her every otherr day or something, so she keeps in touch and to take her mind off g-pa a bit?
Post # 10
@MrsDPal811: I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. 1/2 is the anniversary for my grandfather as well. You don’t ever stop missing a grandfather , but remembering the parts of yourself that are a direct reflection of who he was has always helped me hold mine close to my heart. My parents were living with my grandfather, caring for him, when he passed away and my Mom said it did really hit her more after she tried to return to normal after we all left, so it might be hard for your grandmother as well. I agree that checking in by phone will probably help you both. All my thoughts and wishes.
Post # 11
Thanks bees. I call my grandma when I can and my family visits her everday. She’s being a lot stronger then we thought she would be which is surprising. It’ll take time to get used to the idea he isn’t coming back. I don’t think anyone gets over it but they learn to deal with it.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry for your loss.