Post # 1
So I called my Grandma to let her know where and when the rehersal dinner is and she not only said she couldnt make it, but said she might not make it to the wedding. She said she hasnt been doing to well, which is fine i understand. But they are my fathers parents. My father passed away when i was 11. So this is the only tie I will have to him being at the wedding. She said she would try her hardest, but didnt sound too convincing. I didnt expect my grandpa cuz he hasnt been in the best health for a while. I’m trying to be understanding but I’m upset. I’m my fathers only child. And honestly until i told them the wedding wouldnt be in a church they both seemed excited about the wedding. So i cant help but feel that has something to do with it. And today was going so great, i went through like a whole page of my to dos, but now im just sad 🙁
Post # 3
@truitjen: awww this is so sad, I am so sorry you are going through this. Your father will be with you on your day, I am sure he is not missing it.. feel better
Post # 4
I am so sorry that you grandparents won’t be able to make it to your rehearsal and wedding. I have only one grandparent living, and she wasn’t able to make it our wedding either because of her health. I was devastated; however, I would rather her stay home and stay healthy rather than risk her traveling and getting sick and then something worse happen. I was very sad that she wasn’t their, but one of my aunties had a video camera, so I was able to do a video just for her. That made me feel a little better. I haven’t been able to ask her if she has seen it yet though because when I talked to her just after the wedding she was really tired. Maybe after the wedding you can go visit your grandparents. We are planning to visit grandma at the end of summer.
Post # 5
I am so sorry for you. I agree though, your father will definitely be there.
Why not talk with your grandparents. Tell them how much it would mean to you to have them there – especially because your father (their son) can’t be there physically. Tell them just what you said in your post – that they represent a deep connection to your father that you would like to have at the ceremony.
However, if they are in ill health, keep in mind that traveling to a wedding might actually be very hard for them. I don’t know how old they are or what their condition is – butit is possible. Neither my father (who has altzheimers) nor my fiance’s father (who has COPD) can make it due to ill health.
We are going to try to set up a skype camera for them. Maybe you can do the same?
Post # 6
Awww, I’m sorry. Your father will be with you on your wedding day because he is always in your heart. I’m sure your grandparents really will try to make it to your wedding if they can.
I also really wanted my grandparents to attend my wedding (that is the main reason why I am having my wedding in Michigan) but they have said that they may not be able to come for health reasons. So I am going to be sure to visit them before or after the wedding in my wedding dress with pictures, so they can feel like they are a part of my big day. I know it will make them so happy to feel involved in my wedding in any way possible.
Is there any way you could do the same and visit your grandparents close to the wedding date?
Post # 7
Thanks guys 🙂 I guess i had just assumed they would be there. We plan on including all of our Grandparents in the processional so of course i imagined they would be in it. And just a bit over one month til I’m finding out they prob wont be there, so it just took me off guard.
@noritake22- Our wedding will deffinately be recorded so hopefully they will get a chance to watch it.
@sonomagal- I’m not even sure what their condition is. My grandpa has to use an oxygen machine, which he has for years. But all she said was things weren’t going well there. But she wouldnt elaborate so idk.
@Golden139- I would love to visit on the wedding day, but i know that wont be possible since they live about an hour and a half away. I know i could visit one or two days before since I’m off work the whole week of the wedding though.