my groom has 5 people I have none

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

jadynerose:  Why won’t his sister stand with you? She’s going to be your sister-in-law very soon. Are you close with your mother? While not very common, I’ve been in a wedding where the mom was the matron of honor. I thought it was sweet. 

Is it completely necessary for y’all to have a wedding party? Would your FI’s bros/sis be upset?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

jadynerose:  Could his family participate in the wedding but not actually stand in the front with y’all? They’d still be the groomsmen/women, but they could (instead of standing) have a special seat in the front row and maybe do something during the ceremony like a reading? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

jadynerose:  I mean that instead of them standing up with y’all looking lopsided and whatnot, all of his guys would still be groomsmen, but they would sit in the front row instead of standing with y’all during the ceremony. The only people standing would be you, him, and the officiant. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Do you have any guy friends who you are close to? Maybe you can ask your guy friends to be bridesmen. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

jadynerose:  would you like to develop closer friendships? If you would perhaps you could ask the female friends that you speak with a few times a year and use this as an opportunity to become closer? Id offer to pay their dress/shoes expenses though.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

jadynerose:  If I were in your situation I’d see if your DH will agree to  have no bridal party.  While I certainly don’t think that parties need to be even, if you don’t have anyone you feel comfortable asking to stand up for you, I think that this is a tradition that doesn’t make sense for your as a couple.

Alternatively, just do one person on each side (ie his sister and his twin)?

Post # 11
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Newbee

I like the sitting idea, something special just for them, plus I think they’d appreciate the chairs, those rented patent shoes that most tuxes come with don’t look comfortable. In my research of planning a wedding in the UK I was surprised to discover that the bride, groom, and bridal party all sit during many parts of the wedding. I found that fascinating. 

I do very much sympathize with you on being an introvert, it’s not easy and becomes a glaring under magnification issue when planning something like this. While normally I am very much happy with my own company as well as my partners and a handful of others I don’t live close to now, it would still depress me to not have anyone to stand with me if he was going to have several people.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

jadynerose:  My fiance is having either one or two guys on his side (brother and possibly best friend) and I’m having none.  It’s really ok!  No one focuses on these details like the couple themselves.  If it’s important to your fiance to have his closest people with him, he should do that and it does not say anything negative about you that you are making a different choice.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

what about any close friends at work or relatives i.e cousins? maybe you could ask them.

Post # 14
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Newbee

I would invite your siblings to be on your side in your bridal party.  Even if your not very close, they are a permanent part of your life and maybe this opportunity will bring you closer

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