My grooms ex wore my dress and they got married first.

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I doubt he’ll be thinking of her when he sees you. If you’re really conflicted, maybe add a sash or brooch to make it a little different.

Post # 3
2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

To be honest, I don’t think he’ll recognize it unless he’s really into bridal gowns.  I can’t even pay that much attention to wedding dresses… Maybe once I buy mine I will be able to?  But if it bothers you that much, maybe see if you can exchange/return it?  You still have plenty of time.  You want to feel like the dress is really your own on your wedding day.

Post # 4
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As a guest i might notice the dress was the same, or similar anyway. But i guarentee your DH wont notice at all unless he likes fashion.

Post # 5
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You love the dress.  It is your dress.  Trust me, he won’t remember what she was wearing…only what you look like 🙂

Post # 6
5 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

I also think he will not recognize it is the same dress, let alone if there is a year in between! He will see you, his soon to be wife walking down the aisle and think you will beautiful! But indeed, if it bothers you too much, make a difference with details, like a sash, shoes, hair of jewellery.

Post # 7
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I could not tell you what any of my friend’s or family’s wedding gowns looked like. Basic look? Maybe if I try really hard. In a year, no one will even be thinking of her wedding anymore in terms of details, the focus will be on your day. I like what PP suggested, just add your own little original detail or something.

Don’t worry about this!  

Post # 8
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think he’ll recognize it. I wouldn’t. It is a bummer, though. In the next 12 months you’ll have so much else to worry about that this will be a non-issue.

Post # 9
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with PPs, I doubt he’ll remember her dress.  I could ask DH to describe my dress and all he’d be able to say is that it was white. lol As a guest, I probably wouldn’t remember that the dresses are the same, especially 12 months apart. 

Post # 11
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i can’t remember any of the dresses the brides wore at any of the weddings i went to. 

i highly doubt your FI is going to remember or care. he will only have eyes for you.

and a year later is a long time.

Post # 12
4586 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Guys don’t remember that stuff… so I wouoldn’t worry about it. Plus, although it’s the same dress – you will look different in it because it’s you!

That’s so strange though!

Post # 14
869 posts
Busy bee

Such bad luck! But he will not remember what her dress looked like! And it will look so different on you to how it looked on her. The only person who will notice will be his ex if she see pictures but she wont say anything and if anything she will probably feel complimented that you liked her dress as much as she did! 


Post # 15
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

Honestly I don’t think he will make the connection. Guys don’t analyze dress details the way we do. But it would still bother me so I think you should find a way to personalize it or alter it to be more yours. Post a pic on the Bee for suggestions. 

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