Post # 1
My fiancé’s ex girlfriend married one of his good friends on the weekend. Wearing my dress!! I didn’t know anything about her dress but it broke my heart when I saw her 🙁 I still love the dress and i didn’t tell my Fiancè or the bride that we have the same dress. We don’t get married for another 12 months but I am so scared that when I walk down the isle he will see her and not me or think hey Dee wore that dress. I kind of feel like its not my dress anymore. But I love it so much, the whole night I kept looking at it thinking how beautiful it is. I would love to know how others would feel and if anyone has been in a similar situation as this? I just hate that he has already seen it 🙁
Post # 2
I doubt he’ll be thinking of her when he sees you. If you’re really conflicted, maybe add a sash or brooch to make it a little different.
Post # 3
To be honest, I don’t think he’ll recognize it unless he’s really into bridal gowns. I can’t even pay that much attention to wedding dresses… Maybe once I buy mine I will be able to? But if it bothers you that much, maybe see if you can exchange/return it? You still have plenty of time. You want to feel like the dress is really your own on your wedding day.
Post # 4
As a guest i might notice the dress was the same, or similar anyway. But i guarentee your DH wont notice at all unless he likes fashion.
Post # 5
You love the dress. It is your dress. Trust me, he won’t remember what she was wearing…only what you look like 🙂
Post # 6
I also think he will not recognize it is the same dress, let alone if there is a year in between! He will see you, his soon to be wife walking down the aisle and think you will beautiful! But indeed, if it bothers you too much, make a difference with details, like a sash, shoes, hair of jewellery.
Post # 7
I could not tell you what any of my friend’s or family’s wedding gowns looked like. Basic look? Maybe if I try really hard. In a year, no one will even be thinking of her wedding anymore in terms of details, the focus will be on your day. I like what PP suggested, just add your own little original detail or something.
Don’t worry about this!
Post # 8
I don’t think he’ll recognize it. I wouldn’t. It is a bummer, though. In the next 12 months you’ll have so much else to worry about that this will be a non-issue.
Post # 9
I agree with PPs, I doubt he’ll remember her dress. I could ask DH to describe my dress and all he’d be able to say is that it was white. lol As a guest, I probably wouldn’t remember that the dresses are the same, especially 12 months apart.
Post # 10
Thanks for your reassurance everyone! I really do love it. I guess it just bothers me so much because of all people to have the same dress it is his ex. I like the idea of changing the brooch on it to make it a little different. Thank you all for your lovely words 🙂
Post # 11
i can’t remember any of the dresses the brides wore at any of the weddings i went to.
i highly doubt your FI is going to remember or care. he will only have eyes for you.
and a year later is a long time.
Post # 12
Guys don’t remember that stuff… so I wouoldn’t worry about it. Plus, although it’s the same dress – you will look different in it because it’s you!
That’s so strange though!
Post # 13
Kacie209: I think it’s pretty strange to! his ex and his fiance picking the same dress. I hardly socialize with her so had idea what her dress was like. Seriously, what are the chances! Lol.
Post # 14
Such bad luck! But he will not remember what her dress looked like! And it will look so different on you to how it looked on her. The only person who will notice will be his ex if she see pictures but she wont say anything and if anything she will probably feel complimented that you liked her dress as much as she did!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Honestly I don’t think he will make the connection. Guys don’t analyze dress details the way we do. But it would still bother me so I think you should find a way to personalize it or alter it to be more yours. Post a pic on the Bee for suggestions.