Post # 1
My groom is set on wearing a tux with a bowtie, which I’m fine with, except that he’s also set on pairing it with a vest, which I’m not fine with.
IMO vests and bow ties do not look that good. When I see a tux in the media (at the Oscars, in movies and TV shows..), it seems that a bow tie is NOT usually worn with a vest. I keep pointing it out to my FI too (“Look honey! He’s wearing a bow tie with no vest!”) everytime I see it, and recently he told me that I “exhaused my point” but he still wants a vest.
His thought it that he could always take the vest off, but I doubt he would do this before the reception so pictures of the ceremony would have him in a vest.
I’m trying not to be pushy..But I really don’t like the look of a bowtie and vest! And I want to walk down the aisle thinking “I’m marrying the man of my dreams” and not “I wish he wasn’t wearing that damn vest!”
Ugh. Thanks for reading….What should I do? Drop the subject and let a grown man pick out his own outfit? Or fight for what I want? (and I know that when I say it like that I sound like a control freak!)
Post # 3
FWIW, I’ve seen vest + bowtie before. I know that won’t make you like it better, though. 🙁
Post # 4
I have seen people wearing bow tie and vest together. I know you dont like the look of it, but is a fairly common look moreso with weddings than red carpet events. Its his wedding day too so he should get to choose what he wants to wear.
Post # 5
Well… I doubt he’s going to wear a jacket all night, so think about how the vest and bow tie look WITHOUT the jacket. I think it looks kind of nice.
If you GIS it, it looks really sharp!
Post # 6
I’ll just throw this out there and see if that changes your mind.
P.S. I think the combo is hot for the right guy no matter who is filling it out.
Post # 7
The way wew are doing it my FI gets to wear whatever he wants. It’s not just MY day, it’s OUR day. He has zero say in what I wear, so he should at least get to decide his own clothing, especially if he’s that opinionated about it. My FI was dead set on white suits for the longest time, and I said he could do it, even though I hated it (but thankfully he changed his mind!)
Post # 8
@Talishazwi: Well, I don’t about you but I’m convinced!!
Post # 9
I feel I should refer you to Mrs. Mouse’s post: http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/09/27/wedding-day-music-video/. The groom in that video wore a bow tie and vest I think it paired very nicely. But, that’s just my opinion.
May I suggest you have him try on both options so you can get an idea of what it will look like in person? That might help sway your (or his) decision.
Post # 10
I’ve also seen it together before…it’s not my favorite look, but I also don’t think it looks bad. When we went to pick out the tuxes, we ran into a similar issue. I had a vision in my head and FI chose something a little different. I was tempted to say, “Let’s just do it this way, it will look better,” but I realized it was important to him to pick out what he and his guys would be wearing.
I made so many other decisions for the wedding based on what I wanted, I think it’s good to compromise on some things, especially if it’s important to him.
Post # 12
Did he get a say in your choice of wedding dress?
Post # 13
@Talishazwi: Hmmmmm Yum Yum Beckham…drool!!
Post # 14
You know how you’ll be pretty no matter how ugly he thinks the dress really is? Yeah… same idea, in reverse.Chill.
Post # 15
The matching bow tie and vest look is a very popular look for the prom, you could point that out to him. If he still has his heart set on it then let him wear it. He is a grown man and it is his day too! Is he getting preapprove your wedding day attire?
Post # 16
Guys’ outfits are about the only thing they get to pick and really care about….let him pick his own outfit so he can enjoy his wedding day and the planning too. Really, when you walk down the aisle, I doubt you will care about his vest…you will most likely smile at the fact that he looks like a dork if anything 🙂 Let the man wear what he wants!! It’s not all that important anyways when it’s all said and done.