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We are on the young-ish side, (25) and are having an alma mater wedding. Many of my girlfriends are single, and most of his guyfriends are single too. Well, as the RSVPs have started rolling in, we are seeing that a few of our single friends are bringing dates. Which is just fine, I'm not going to be the "guest police". If we invited you with a guest, we meant it! But wait, all of their dates are people we know. Weird! For example, goomsmen Billy is very, very single. But he's bringing Jill Myers? We know Jill Myers! She's one of those "fringe friends", the person you see out in public and smile or nod to, but never stop to chat. Well that's strange. And then our friend Bryan, who is single is bringing Ashley Beaker? We know who Ashley Beaker is! She's a nice girl, and sometimes I'd see her at mutual friend's parties, but by no means is she a good friend of ours. How weird.
Well, FI got to the bottom of this weirdness today. There are a group of non-friend-friends in the area (since we went to college there, we "know" alot of people), who are TRYING TO GET INVITED TO OUR WEDDING! So they're getting in touch with our good friends on facebook and offering them MONEY to take them to our wedding. My girlfriends were too scared to tell me, and obviously couldn't be paid off by these whackos. But his friends are douchier and 3 girls have actaully PAID three different guys to be taken as their "dates". One of which is our best man, so she'll be sitting at the head table???
What the *bleep* to the mother *bleeping* *bleep* nugget *bleep* *bleep*!!!!?!?!?!?!!?
WTF
I don't even know what to say. Why would anyone pay to go to a wedding they weren't invited to?? What are you guys going to do?
If it wasn't so weird it would be almost flattering! Seriously, never heard of that, and furthermore, who does that????
OMG that is horrible! Honestly if it was me i would call them up and tell them that there is no way they can bring ******
You must be throwing one hell of a party to have people paying to be invited!
holy geez that is creepy! Did you find out WHY they wanted to be invited? Free booze? Because you're planning such a fab event?
That's hilarious. I wouldn't be too upset about it, though. If they're not in relationships, what's the difference if they bring someone who paid or if they bring a random friend? At least these are girls you recognize and not totally awkward strangers. I guess I just figure it could be worse -- what if the guys were paying to get dates?! haha
I don't know tht I'm going to do anything about it. As of right now, I'm just in shock. What the hell is wrong with people???? And the best man???? REALLY?
This is a wedding, not a college reunion. Just because I used to bump into you at the Library and say "hi" doesn't mean you're wedding guest-worthy. ugh. This is so strange.
You so pop-u-larrr! :)
I'm sorry you have to deal with that. very. strange. situation! :(
SERIOUSLY>!??!?! that's horrible... I cant believe people would do that. Are you allowing all the bridal party dates to sit at the head table? Maybe you should seat them separate, so one of the crazy ladies doesnt get seated at the head table. Wow... I never would have even considered this being an issue... incredible!
@cecullaton: We are having two members of our party sit with us at the head table. The rest of the wedding party will be seated with their dates at the next table.
i'm sorry, but i find this to be totally hilarious (and i mean that in the nicest way possible!)
you should be flattered. i wish i was that cool!
This is the weirdest, craziest thing I have read all morning. Really?! You guys must be crazy popular or throwing the sweetest wedding ever. I have NEVER heard of people doing that.
Honestly, I would be very flattered. It's awesome that people think so much of you that they want to attend your wedding. If they didn't like you and think you were a really fantastic person, they would not be literally paying money to come.
what?!?! thats odd...I cant believe people would do that...haha you must be throwing the wedding of the year if people are willing to pay money to come to it!!
This is so weird! I guess I wish my wedding had been auction worthy! ;) Enjoy the extra guests who just want to celebrate with you!
No, no, no! You guys are all wrong. We are not that cool! I promise. I think they just want free alcohol and are viewing this a college reunion of sorts. Which, even if I were throwing a college reunion, I wouldn't invite these people (because they're not my FRIENDS!) Some of them I hardly even know. Like, the only time I remember seeing the one girl is in 7/11 when I was getting a slurpee. This was our conversation:
her: Hey, aren't you VM?
me: Yes.
her: Arent you dating Mr. VM?
me: yes
her: I'm Jill! I know his roommate.
me: Oh okay.
her: Well, see ya.
me: Yep....
That is so so so so weird!!! But I agree, it must be one heck of a party that you're throwing and everyone is hearing about if they're dying to come THAT bad! LOL! Could you ask said best man why this has gotten so extreme?!
Can I pay someone to go to your wedding? Sounds like it's the wedding to be at for sure! I'm kidding of course. I do admit, this made me laugh and it's definitely the first time I heard of something like this. I would say as long as these aren't people you don't dislike I wouldn't worry about it since at least you "know" them and feel flattered they want to be there that desperately. It doesn't sound like they have malicious reasons for being there. Personally, I'd then do a sweetheart table to do away with a head table containing someone who paid cash to be at my wedding. Hey! Shouldn't these women being paying YOU instead. ;)
@VirginiaMarie: Is Mr VM a Tom Cruise lookalike? Secret billionaire? Dances with snakes?! What is going on here?!
@bakerella:HAHAH no!!!!! I promise. We are so average. To be honest, Mr. VM doesn't even like women all that much. It's amazing he fell in love with me, because he has zero girl-friends. He thinks most women are very irritating and he isn't friends with any of these girls!
You guys are going about this all wrong. We are not that cool. I really, really think its just because it's going to be a lot of college people,all in one place (everyone has since moved away) and an open bar. That's what they want. Not us. You are not being angry enough for me!!!!!
aw I'm sorry! The +1s issue was absolutely one of the most frustrating parts of being engaged!
@VirginiaMarie: I'm thinking you should spread that rumor to discourage the "unwanteds". I would also have an open discussion with the members of your wedding party who have sold their tickets and let them know that while you're more than welcome to bring a guest, you thought that they would be bringing someone they were dating and cared about, rather than someone who was looking for a college reunion and free booze. I would stress that it's a wedding, not a frat party or reunion. I think that they're not getting it.
@hermitcrab: It is challenging! Ugh, I just wish FI's friends couldn't be bought. :(
Wow that is completely crazy? Why do they want to go to the wedding so much that they are paying people off?
I think we're all in shock really! It IS very strange. I guess you could tell those people who are serving as "Escorts" to your wedding they CAN NOT bring these strangers to your celebration. I think I would be REALLY angry at the guys who have "sold" entrance to your private celebration. I was making light of it before, but YES I would be upset. You almost have to feel sorry for someone who pays someone to take them as a guest to a wedding where there clearly aren't desired.
@bakerella:I don't even know how people would know it was open bar. I mean, do people spread that information around?! And, I feel bad saying something to these guys because most of them are flying in from all over the country and I feel bad.... You know?
@VirginiaMarie: Honestly, go collect all the money from your FI's friends. They had no business doing that. Or tell them to give back the money and find some "real" guests.
Yeah, I went to high school in a small town. I had a couple of friends last year who had weddings and ended up having 30-100 wedding crashers because people want the free booze.
Have you thought of getting security to prevent wedding crashers as it seems like it can be a possiblity now?
It's frustrating because originally I wanted a very, very, very small, private wedding. But FI and I realized how blessed we are with lots of friends and family and we chose to welcome everyone. But now, I'm having so many near-strangers at my wedding and it just upsets me. I wish we had eloped.....this was exactly what I was trying to avoid. Or perhaps the bigger mistake was having it in a location where we know SO many locals. We should have had it far away and then these *bleepers* couldn't have come.
I'd remove those full names, lest they find this thread and find you calling them "not wedding guest worthy."
*eta: oh good, so glad those aren't their real names! Didn't want there to be even more guest drama!
@sceeder: I would love to. Maybe it will cover half of the filet mignon these girls ordered.
@VirginiaMarie: Don't say you feel bad!!! Oh my gosh! These guys are turning your wedding into a party with a cover charge! How in the world did they turn the tables so that you're feeling bad?! They should be ashamed of themselves!!!
Um on one side, that is totally freaking weird and rude and not cool. On the other, I think I would be flattered that these people think my wedding would be so awesome that they would PAY to come it...
@VirginiaMarie: Or even better. If you get security or people watching the doors you should have their names on the list and have them TURNED away.
Okay, I understand now......(I still think you guys have to be way cool, though <weg>)
Yeah, I would be pissed too. It's not like those guys have formal dates or girlfriends. The plus ones were a courtesty and you are now paying for meals, alcohol, etc for girls you really don't know. I would let the guys who are selling their plus ones that you know about and that you aren't appreciative. You are footing the bill and they are profiting. It's not appropriate for you to fund a college reunion on your wedding day.
Sorry..... :-(
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