Post # 1
It is funny how sometimes I forget that most of the real living world is not scouring wedding blogs constantly, and therefore are a little clueless to things that I think are common sense.
We sent out our save the date postcards yesterday, and because we were attending an early Christmas dinner with FIs extended family, we decided to just hand deliver about 10 to relatives who were there. As it turns out, not one person who was there had ever heard of a save the date. We got so many questions about them including,
“Why are you sending your invitations out so early if your wedding is in May?”
“Why don’t your invitations have the place and time of the ceremony?”
“So, I am going to get another invitation for this later? Isn’t that a little excessive?”
“I thought you were on a budget. Why did you buy two sets of invitations?”
LOL. I work for the development office at a University who puts on events all year long. Events which are always preceded with both save the dates and invitations, so I just figured that other people were acquainted with the concept. It’ll be really interesting to see what comments we get from people who just receive them in the mail. I feel like I need to include an explanation with them.Something like:
“Hi. Although this is an announcement that is letting you know that we are getting married, it is not your invitation. It’s purpose is to let you know the date of our wedding, so that you will have the opportunity to mark your calendar now and avoid scheduling conflicts. As this piece of paper states, Please save the date of May 19th and you will receive a formal invitation closer to our wedding date. Thank you.”
Has anyone else had this issue or are my guests just extra clueless?
Post # 3
Ive gotten some responses like this. Its so funny.
Post # 4
Thankfully, all of my guests understood what they were, but I think that’s because they had all been to weddings recently and received save the dates before. If you’re the first wedding these guests will attend, then I can understand why they might be confused. Make sure to write “invitation to follow” on the save the date, so they understand it’s not the actual invitation.
Post # 5
Hahaha, this story cracked me up! Yes! I just sent mine out a few days ago and already getting questions just like this! I tried to make it obvious by chosing magnets that said “Save the date” but apparently not quite as obvious as I thought!
Post # 6
My Future Mother-In-Law didn’t even know what a cocktail hour was. lol Needless to say, STD’s are a foreign concept too.
I made STD’s, but I’m reconsidering sending them because of the responses I can imagine getting. 🙂
Post # 7
A lot of older folks and people who haven’t been to a wedding in the last 5 years or so are not going to know what a STD is. And it is regional, in my area, or should say my home town no one sends those out or even has heard of them
Post # 8
I thought it was obvious too, since the front says “Save the Date” in big letters and the back says…
“Drew and Jessi are getting hitched on May 19th, 2012 and they want to celebrate with their nearest and dearest (that means YOU! so mark your calendars now!) Formal invitation to follow”
The funniest part was when I was trying to explain the concept to my FIs male cousin, who just stared back in bewilderment. He said, “Oh, well that is weird. I don’t really see the point…” then just a few breaths later he said, “Good thing you told us the date of your wedding because we were going to schedule ours for that day, too. Now we’ll move it back a week.” haha. Exactly. 🙂
Post # 9
I got the same thing! Everyone was “Oh, that’s a little early to be spending invites!!”
OP, we are date twins!!
Post # 10
I think it’s a more recent concept. I had never heard of one (or received one) before coming onto weddingbee! I didn’t end up sending them out because it’s not a ‘norm’ for my area. I have been to 4 weddings in the past year and not one used them.
Although I did find a really cute idea for them and wanted to do them but in the end changed my mind.
Post # 11
@JessicaAlecia: My guests don’t understand save the dates either. They all think they’re invitations, which is weird because there’s no time or name of the church, just the city. Oh well. I guess they’ll figure it out when they get the actual invitation next month and have to RSVP.
Post # 12
Another 5/19 bride here 🙂
I haven’t sent mine out yet (and won’t until Jan 2) but I can only imagine some people’s reactions. We’re not sending them to everyone but hopefully those who do get them understand the concept.
Post # 13
Haha, mine knew what they were. We had business card sized magnets that we had slipped into card stock with slots cut out to hold them in place. I know a few people didn’t know they were magnets and just left them in the paper which made me laugh.