My heart just literally dropped….

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Daisylovex3:  Know that what you’re feeling is completely normal. I found my 6 month TTC really tough too, because, you really expect it to have happened at this point. TTC is really Shitty so vent away!!!!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh man I know. We are at 18ish months of ntnp, and just because we are young and not REALLY in a rush we are so far just continuing ntnp and havent moved towards anything more yet. But knowing in my head “we arent in a hurry for a baby” doesnt change how every person who gets pregant around me doesnt make me just a little irrationally jealous. Especially since a bunch of them are total uh-oh babies. And it doesnt suck less when my period shows up. Or for me, not show up for 60-90 days but all negatives, just that it is that wonky. Just remember, just because you havent been trying as long as some people doesn’t male your feelings any less valid. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For me, reaching that 6 month/cycle TTC was very, very hard.  Especially while I was surrounded by a very pregnant cousin, a SIL, and a good friend.  

Join us over on the 6+ month thread (forgive me if you already have!)  

Also, are you charting your temp or were otherwise able to confirm ovulation this cycle?  Just wondering, because you technically don’t “skip” AF, but your cycle just may be super long for some reason.  It tends to become apparent the once any of us start TTC, it’s inevitable for that “always 28 day” cycle to become wonky. Sometimes it seems like our bodies just hate us. 

I’m on my 11th cycle TTC, good luck to you hun! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

MissCountryGirl727:  same here.  6 months TTC was the toughest. It get easier every month that passes. 

You are not alone and TTC is the most mentally exhausting thing i have been through. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Daisylovex3:  I feel your pain! My DH I were together over 10 years before we got married and it felt like everyone got married before me (they basically did..ha!). We’ve just hit 2 years married and I swear everyone of my friends is either done having kids, or currently pregnant – except me. Babies are everywhere. This month will be my 6th cycle off BC and while we haven’t been actively trying I haven’t been preventing either. The month before last I was *convinced* I was pregnant. I was 14 days late, but testing negative. AF eventually came.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know exactly how your feeling. I have been trying for nearly 2 1/2 years and still waiting. A couple of months ago my SIL got pregnant with her 3rd!! Its so fustrating and depressing but i am happy for her. I struggle at family functions when anything comes up about her pregnancy cause its like a slap to the face everytime. 

Good luck, i hope your time comes real soon. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Daisylovex3:  Your temps will be low to start with and then after O they will remain high until AF.  The day you can see the shift change is the day O occured.  However, this is only good to determine that O has actually occured after the fact, and can help you determine you luteal phase. 

You will need to use OPKs to determine when O is about to occur, so that you can BD in your fertile window. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

Daisylovex3:  Have you heard of the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility? I feel like their advocate because I tell  EVERYONE about this book. It will really help you understand when you are ovulating, when you are most fertile, least fertile…etc. I’m only in my second cycle of charting. And I’m not TTC right now, but I’m glad I found this book when I did. I actually wish I would have found it sooner.

And to answer your question about charting. Your temp will rise the day after you O. You will have a low temp from the first day of your new cycle until you O. Then your tempos will rise and stay higher until your new cycle starts, or will remain high if you get pregnant. I suggest chart CF to though, sense temps come after you ovulate 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  MrsWoods47.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

Daisylovex3:  So sorry to hear about your friend’s wife’s possible miscarriage. I guess it just shows that we never really know what other folks are struggling with. We all have our own burdens.  Try not to feel guilty about being jealous and then finding out about your friend’s issue. Your thoughts didn’t have anything to do with it. That being said, I understand being upset by other folks sucesses when you’re struggling, it’s only natural. I also found the 6 month mark the to be very disheartening. It was hardest milestone for me yet, worse than the 1 year mark IMO. The 6 month mark was like a crushing of my hope that this would be easy whereas by the 1 year mark I was no longer so optimistic, so it hurt less. I hope you have TTC success soon and that your friend is only having a scare.

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