(Closed) My Holiday Disaster

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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482 posts
Helper bee

I’d ask him for a timeline as to when he sees you 2 getting engaged, if you dont agree with said timeline, compromise. then i would keep quiet from that point forward. he knows you want marriage and youve had a lengthy conversation as to where you stand on the future, now the ball is in his court.

dont feel guilty or embarrassed for bringing it up, these are discussions you should be having. I wouldnt move states for a boyfriend either, stand your ground.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I agree with the PP. A timeline sounds like exactly what you two need right now.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with discussing a timeline.

You absolutely need to know where this is going to you can figure out if it’s enough for you.  Additionally, he might not realize how long it will take.  I think most guys believe that marriage comes a few months after engagement. 

Money is another thing that should be discussed.  Money was a big delay for us, because FI thought he had to save up $20K for a ring.  Once he and I talked about what I wanted (“I’d rather have a nicer house than a bigger ring.”), he felt better about it.

Good luck!

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