- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
🙁 gah. More of a vent thread. I figured many of the 20 something may understand since many of you have or are living with roommates or housemates in or out of school before the wedding.
I am SICK of getting criticized because I am getting married. Not put down, no ‘too young’ comments. Just criticized by girls who do not understand nor try to. My fiance and I have a LDR as of right now, until he moves closer to me in a month or so.
This entire year has sucked for us since I’ve had to go back for my first semester senior year. I’ve been away from him and from wedding planning for a few months now and I’m trying to get back into it while my mom and fiance are living at my home away from me doing most of the work. Whenever my fiance is in town you better believe he’s my number one priority!!! Skype is sucky, our phone connections are not the best so my face to face time with him is valuable. We are not that far away but hardly get to see each other on the weekends.
I plan on trying to get home every weekend after this play is over (i work in the theatre and am totally swamped until production is over). Over the past few days I was chastized by my housemates for not hanging around much. Um… I’m getting married in 2 and a half months and NEED to get back into planning way more than I have been. They are trying to plan an out of town weekend for two of the girls living in my house, overnight and would inevitably take me away from wedding planning, etc when this is the only weekend I can see my fiance and we had previous plans. They complained I could ‘do it later’ and don’t understand why I don’t hang around for their raucous college parties at my place when my fiance is in town. Romantic night with the FH…. hanging around people who don’t even have bf’s and simply don’t understand how important this is to me…. I talked with one of my housemates having the birthday and she said she didn’t care if I was there or not.
I think my choices are good and I am putting the wedding and my fiance first as the LDR has strained our relationship a bit. But I am SO tired of them treating me like I have my priorities mixed up. Talking badly about other girls I know who are engaged…. Lord only knows what they’ve said about me behind my back.
I just want to move out and be married. I’m sick of the college lifestyle and am so tired of being told I am ‘never around’ when I put so much effort into being professional in school while planning a wedding and being away from my fiance. We certainly don’t talk 24/7 and I’m really sick of all the criticism I’ve been getting.
They make me feel like having a fiance is something bad or something to look down upon.