(Closed) My hubby and I eloped…

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mrsgavidia: First off, YAY! Congrats!!! ๐Ÿ™‚  As for the wedding, why not?  If you haven’t told anyone you eloped (other than us, that is ๐Ÿ˜‰ ), I don’t see why they’d have to know.  Especially if it’s gonna be on your 1 year anniversary. ๐Ÿ™‚  A LOT of people do this, too.  They get married on x-day, then have the wedding a year later for many reasons.

Since I’m not a religious person, I really can’t help on the religious aspect, but if you want to go all-out, why not??? 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@mrsgavidia: people are often surprised at what Christians are allowed to do. Yes, we can dance! Christianity is, in it’s pure form, a very joyful religion.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We split our civil and religious wedding (for family reasons– yay now we have two families to keep happy!) and it’s working out great. We told everyone, and the two dates have nothing in common, they’re 7 plus months apart, but everyone understands.

 

We’re having a formal religious ceremony with all the traditions.

 

The big thing here (because it can *really* divide the family, is to tell people that you are legally married but don’t consider yourself religiously married until this ceremony. Don’t let people feel decieved as they could hold this against you for years.

 

Originially MIL told us to tell no one that we were getting legally married. Eventually I had to call her and say I could never keep a secret like that. Then she told a story about a family member of her generation that eloped legally and had a ceremony later. They didn’t tell anyone AND THEN everyone found out. People are still a tiny bit upset about it many years later.

 

 

You can choose to do a “vow renewal” or a religious (first time) ceremony.

But my biggest input is to make sure people know so they don’t feel like you left them out of some important “secret.”

 

 

 

Just as a  warning– you will get all kinds of conflicting advice for your recent and upcoming wedding. Remember 1. CONGRATULATIONS You are married! Woo hoo! and 2 You can’t please everyone.  Do what is right for your (two) families, and for you two.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Great date choice!

I was raised Christian and we actually sang hymns about how great dancing is. It shouldn’t be a problem

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ellabee: good points about the “keep it a secret” aspect.  Since VA has some interesting laws, it gives couples a lot of wiggle room.  Of course, my FI and I also are devious people so it wouldn’t be an issue for us, in the OP’s shoes.

 

@mrsgavidia: I’d recommend keeping it a secret ONLY IF it’s possible.  as in: no name changes, can keep it hush-hush amongst the people who DO know, that there is NO WAY ANYONE can discover the truth.  (as in you changed your name on everything).  Otherwise, I wouldn’t volunteer the information, but if asked, I’d admit you eloped and say you’re having the REAL wedding ceremony next year and this was simply for legalities (ie: insurance, etc).

good luck! and have fun!!!!

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011
Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011
Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should definitely have a nice wedding cake dress and all. Also, being a Christian I see no problem with dancing ๐Ÿ™‚ Being a Christian doesn’t = being boring!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@mrsgavidia:What do you think constitutes a Christian wedding?  The wedding can be whatever you want it to be. I am a Christian. We were married and had the reception in the same place (not a church).  There was a prayer at the start of the ceremony.  Our officiant was a friend who got ordained.  We had uneven party sides and the best man was actually DH’s sister (labeled Best Woman).  We had beer and wine and dancing but I instructed the DJ to play no music with swear words.  Probably the church people at my wedding wouldn’t think it was traditionally Christian but I don’t think God was any less there or would bless my marriage any less.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrsgavidia: as far as music goes I think just be tastefull with it. Nothing with vulgarity and all that kind of stuff. It doesn’t have to be all technically Christian music. We will probably have some country music and some other stuff (that isn’t offensive). But we mainly listen to Christian rock of sorts so that will be the majority of our playlist.

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