(Closed) My Hubby didn't buy me a gift, disappointed and failed at a talk over it

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Ok, then just tell him you expect a nice gift during your honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@fivemonthsnotice:  did you guys discuss gifts prior to the wedding. DH and I agreed that our wedding and honeymoon was our gift to eachother…

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you need to get over it.  Giving gifts to one another when getting married is not mandatory.  You got married because you love each other not because you are getting each a gift on your wedding day. Your gift should be the marriage to each other.  My DH and I did not get each other gifts nor was any gifts expected.  Our gift to each other is our lives we joined in marriage….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@fivemonthsnotice:  Men have to be told things point blank.  They aren’t as emotional as us.  They don’t think how a sweet song or random flowers would make us feel.  We got to tell them.  Seriously, when I want flowers (even though I know it would mean a bit more if DH just did it on his own) I tell him.  “Hey honey, bring me flowers!”  Even hints don’t work.  Just got to be blunt.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Until I joined WB, I had no idea that gifts between one another was a thing. I mentioned it to passing yesterday to FI on our drive home and his response was “What?  We’re suppose to give each other gifts….on to of everything else???” haha. I don’t know if we’ll end up doing that, but if we do, I’m going to have to discuss it with him, because he’s probably already forgotten the conversation.

The things you did for him were really sweet.  Really, very sweet.  But I’m sure you didnt do it because you were expecting a gift in return.  That’s not what gifts like that are about.  So unless you specifically told him that you expected a gift from him, I don’t think you can fault him for not coming through with one.

*my outlook on this may be very biased, though 😛 FI and I are awful with presents.  I still haven’t gotten him a birthday present (his was in May), if he got me one, I don’t remember what it was, and we don’t do annversery or Valentines presents or anything. So I think if I were you, I wouldn’t be feeling the same as you may, having an emphasis on it.  If that makes any sense.  Regardless, have you spoken to him about it?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Vidya:  I agree…I’d never, ever heard of people giving gifts to each other on their wedding day.

What you did was incredible…but it is a gift, you should want to give it because giving it makes you happy.  You could suggest that he surprise you with something for your birthday or anniversary or Valentines.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly I can understand how it would hurt you that he didn’t get you anything… but… He’s a guy. I thought about it and my guy wouldnt either unless I told him I was getting him a gift. It’s not that he does not care, he just does not know or think about those things. Us womens think about everything!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you guys should be enjoying your newlywed bliss not worrying about gifts. I think when you give someone something you should do it because you want to, not because you expect something back. From what you said it doesn’t seem like he agreed or commited to getting you a gift. All of the things you did were thoughtful and nice, I wouldn’t ruined it by making a deal out of this.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree with TwoCityBride.. You guys should be enjoying newlywed bliss and not worrying about gifts. I personally wouldn’t even bring it up, why make your new husband feel guilty for something he may or may not have realized that was supposedly expected of him.  Enjoy the feeling of newly married! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Get over it. You just got married and crying over not getting a gift? Who cares! You married the love of your life. You got him something, because you wanted too. Don’t ever expect anything in return. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@fivemonthsnotice:  It seems like lately you have been spending a lot of time posting about what went WRONG with your wedding, between the MIL, the cousin, and now the absent gift. 

Why not make a list of things that went RIGHT about the wedding, and surround yourself with thoughts of those things?

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