(Closed) My hubby thinks I’m crazy but…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Um, NO! Sorry, but I take my pets very seriously, and I would never consider getting rid of them just to be able to live in a different apartment. Never, never, never!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Frankly, if the apartment doesn’t allow pets then that rules it out in my not-so-humble opinion. Don’t let him guilt trip you, which is what he is trying to do.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would never get rid of a pet for an apartment. They become like children to you – no way, no how. It’s not that kitty is more important than him, it’s that kitty is more important than one apartment out of thousands.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would not get rid of a pet for an apartment. For that matter – when I was dating, I broke up with a few boyfriends over differences of opinion regarding pets. I just knew long term I could not be with a man who couldn’t embrace pets in the home.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I broke up with someone over a pet too.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

If someone is willing to get rid of a pet at any time just because it gets them something else that they want….they shouldn’t ever get a pet in the first place.  As you said, a pet is a lifetime commitment, and the fact that you take that seriously says a lot about your character.  Clearly, he was raised with very different values, which isn’t really his fault, but he’s wrong on this one and you’re right.  It would be incredibly irresponsible and selfish to get rid of the cat in favor of an apartment.  I LOVE my cat and so does my husband and I know we’d do a lot and sacrifice to ensure that he never goes back to the kind of environment we rescued him from.  Our home is his home…wherever it is.  Good for you!  Stay strong!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Keep the cat!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would never get rid of my dog for an apartment- and cats are WAY easier to rent with than large dogs! You made a commitment, and you love your cat. If my FI told me to get rid of the dog for a nicer place (he never would, thankfully), I would ask if he wants to marry the kind of woman who makes a lifelong commitment (in this case to my dog- to provide him with proper care), and reneges on it when a nicer and more convenient opportunity comes along. I’d also ask if he really wants to marry the kind of woman who isn’t really willing to make sacrifices for those she loves. If you’re willing to sacrifice a nice place and to work hard to find something that works for your cat, imagine how much you’re willing to sacrifice and work for him!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

We never told our apartment we had a cat- they never found out!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good choice to keep looking. Pets are not disposable; they are a commitment that lasts the lifetime of the pet.

Now we live in a house, but when my fiance and I lived in an apartment, “pet friendly” was our top priority, no way would we even consider getting rid of our dogs!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jamiemichelle– it sounds like you have a win-win situation! You can find a place that works for all of you AND you get to enjoy the benefits of a spayed cat. No more heat cycles (they can be SO annoying), and no unexpected kittens (and cats can have a ton- I worked in a spay/neuter clinic, and they can actually become pregnant again VERY soon after giving birth), no guilt if she does have kittens (since you’ll never feel like you contributed to the problem of pet overpopulation- which is worse for cats than for dogs), and your kitty is more likely to live a longer, healthier, life! Awesome!

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