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Wishful thinking, S&C hubby!
As much as I'm not a fan of Valentines, you've gotta keep the romance alive!!
@simpleandchic: Yea, I have NEVER heard of that before.... hopefully he is joking or trying to throw you off... If not, tell him that one thing has nothing to do with the other!!!! ;)
Not only can he not just skip it, but he has to make it even more special! It's your first Valentine's Day as a married couple. That definitely worth celebrating.
Actually, we don't celebrate Valentine's Day.
You don't have to celebrate Vday to keep the romance alive. I find it more romantic when my husband randomly brings me flowers than on a set specifici day every year. Or randomly picks me up something because he knows I want it but won't buy it, etc etc. Just me.
We're just not that into Vday/Sweetest Day, etc
What do you expect him to do? I guess, what did he used to do when you were just dating? We don't really celebrate valentines day...my husband gets me flowers every year, but nothing major.
I'm not married yet, but we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day. We totally see it as a commercial holiday and ways to "steal" money for people. We will celebrate our love and being together on a completely random day.
Good luck though if that's what you really want to do.
What did you guys do before you were married? For us we arent celebrating V-day because 1 week later it will be our 6 month-aversary so we are going to celebrate that instead. Simply tell him that Valentines day is just an excuse to celebrate each other and your relationship. Tell him he doesnt have to get you anything but planning a nice evening out would be perfect.
Agreed with @jaguar: you gotta keep the romance alive! :-)
I sort of don't like Valentine's Day, I think you should show your love all the time, not just one day because Hallmark says so.
@simpleandchic: Valentines Day can be overrated sometimes but there is nothing wrong with celebrating your relationship/marriage! Why don't the two of you have a date night and go out to dinner?
Same here-except that occasionally my husband will decide to do Valentine's Day. -A couple of years ago he did it BIG and sent roses to my work, when I got home he had sent a Pajamagram to home, too! Totally Shocked Me!! But generally he doesn't like the "Hallmark Days"-telling him he has to do something THIS day. He usually just does something on different days and surprises me. OP-
Hopefully he is bluffing-or he just rather do special things on "regular" days.
I am going to be the odd one out here and say I LOVE valentines day! And while I do agree that it is a commercialized day and that we don't NEED a specific day to remind us to show our love but hey, what can another excuse to shower eachother in love hurt? Being married doesn't change the need to shower eachother in love. Infact, it means you need to do it even MORE! We aren't going to do anything big this year because we are saving money for the wedding but you better believe next year will be a big one!
We're not doing anything on that day because every potential activity is going to be SWAMPED with couples. We're staying in, watching a movie, and probably ordering takeout. However, we'll probably go out to celebrate on either the 13th or the 15th.
@Gerbera: ditto...we are the same way too. I have friends who have anti-valentines day about a couple weeks after v-day *laugh*
Haha no way! We don't ever do anything big for Valentine's Day...but he will never be exempt!
We never do anything for Valentine's day... but you should tell HIM that you heard you no longer have to give BJ's now that you're married. :)
We usually just exchange cards. But this year, DH will be working out of town on valentines day.
This may seem odd but what if you made the Valentine's day arrangements??
You could make the reservation at a restaurant and he might surprise you with flowers or something. You never know what he may have up his sleeve.
@simpleandchic: It's okay. FI has never done anything for Valentines Day because he says he "refuses to celebrate a made up holiday created by the card companies." I told him as long as I got some awesome sex on that date then I would be okay. My friend owns a bar and has the anti-vday bash every year on vday. We might just go to that.
@Saphiresun that is great advise, will do!
Look we have never made a big deal for Valentines Day, I just think it's nice to use it as an opportunity to have a date night. Usually I have to organize it, this year I was hoping he might (maybe even some flowers sent to work lol) I know it is a comercialised holiday but why not use it as a reminder to do something nice for your loved one.
Yeah, my FI has always said he hates Valentine's day. His argument is that he loves me everyday of the year, not just one! Last year I just bought myself flowers and everyone was happy! :)
@kfricke89: I'm with you on this one. DH & I don't really go all-out or anything, but we do use it as an excuse to be a bit over-the-top mushy. We are pretty good about showing our love daily, but it's just a little more fun to celebrate it one day a year. We'll probably cook something nice & have a quiet snuggling evening. :)
My SO informed me that Valentine's day was for guys too. I said 'WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?" LMAO.
I thought Steak and BJ day was the male Valentine's Day. Think that's sometime in April. :)
We normally don't celebrate V day, but we do go out to dinner, basically cuz its an excuse to go out to dinner! We have a couple different options this year, so not sure what we are going to do, but we will probably go out the weekend before and not on v day since its a Monday and I have a late night at work
My husband used the excuse last year that V-day shouldn't be celebrated because he would rather buy me flowers and take me to dinner on his own one day. Well, that random day never happened last year, so this year I made reservations at a restaurant and told him that it's his choice if he wants to join me. That way, I'm not forcing him to dinner but I still get to be pampered with a nice dinner and no clean-up.
It's my understanding that Japan has two such holidays - Valentine's Day guys are to pay attention to their ladies, and "White Day" where the ladies show their men how speical they are.
Basically, if it would upset you to do nothing that day, at all, then he needs to know you'd like some sort of recognition, even if it's a $5.00 box of chocolates from the grocery store. (Although, if you wait for the 15th, the choclates are cheaper :) )
How about if you stay in for dinner, you just add some candles to the table, telling him that you don't want a big, commercial Valentines', but it's a nice to day to be a little extra loving. Hand-make him a card or something, and give it to him in the morning... maybe he'll feel more like doing seomthing by the evening then.
I'm the one who actually told my husband we didn't need to celebrate it. And he said he'll plan something cause it sounded like a trick. Really not! I just don't care about the day that much. I'd rather save it up for my birthday!
Thai people are among the happiest people I have ever met and they take advantage *any* reason to celebrate, thats what we try to do as a couple. Who cares if its a hallmark holiday... Christmas is pretty similar these days.
That's crazy! I'm not huge Valentine's Day fan, but I do expect a little something, even if it's just a romantic dinner.
In our first few years together we would do something. Now not so much. Since he makes me feel appreciated many times throughout the year so I don't give any weight to VDay.
you have the right to feel special even though you're married..but it shouldn't be just on valentines day!
I always have to tell FI what I want for V-Day. I asked him for some tulips, baloons, and chocolate sent to my job (b/c V-Day is Monday and I don't want to wait). I already ordered his favorite Girl Scout cookies as his V-Day gift and I will probably add a letter and a card.
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My husband doesn't think he needs to do anything for valentines day now......that we are married....Can you believe it? he thinks he is now exempt..I told him that was bull sh#t and that I was going to ask the bees.
So bees let him have it lol