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...aaaaaand I'm not sure how I feel about it. So something strange has occurred.
I was all gung-ho for him to do it since he's been wanting to for a long time. But now that he has it's just kind of weird. I don't know if I like it. I know that my opinion means the world to him so I'm trying to be supportive...but at the same time I don't want to lie.

Anyone else go through something like this?

My husband was dead set on dying his hair green when we were in college. I was cool with that, he played tennis for the university and it was a school color- plus, we were in college.

 If he came home as his 30 year old self and said, "Maureen, I'm going to dye my hair green.." I'd be a little worried as his job is conservative. If he worked in a more creative field it wouldn't bother me as much, but I'd think it was sort of immature. I think age, occupation, and where you are in your life plays a role in my feelings.

I think it is probably just a bit visually jarring and you need to take some time to get used to it.  Also, it's only hair, and it will fade eventually.  Not permanent.

I have a different view than many on the "weird hair color" thing.   I am 39 and I had "odd colored" hair up into my mid 30's.  The only reason I haven't had it some crazy color in the past couple of years is because honestly, I'm too busy with school to invest the time into it, though I do have a bottle of cotton-candy pink waiting in the bathroom cabinet!  Of course when I had jobs that didn't allow that sort of thing I didn't do it, but when I was a SAHM, and now as a student, I figure what the heck?

People would always ask me WHY, and quite simply I would answer that I like different colors, so why NOT?  I just like pink and purple better than brown or blonde. 

I don't see it as any more unnatural or weird than women putting color on their face via makeup.  Who is born with purple or green or blue or brown eyelids? Really? ;)

So while some may see it as immature, I see it as just having fun.  And yes, embracing my inner child a bit, the one who loved pale pink and unicorns and cake and super frilly dresses. 

My kids always thought it was awesome and so did their friends.  When my son (now 13) was four or five it was waist length and bright purple.  I worked at his school (private) as the afterschool teacher and ALL the children loved it.  I have seriously considered doing it a pale pink for the wedding!

 Okay so after my long defense of funky colored hair, I wanted to say that I DO understand when your significant other does something with their hair or clothing that you hate.  All you can do is give your opinion and leave it at that.  FI has some god awful clothing choices I often try to steer her away from but if she likes it, she likes it, and there's only so much I can say or do without coming off as a control freak (who, me?!).

Thanks for your input everyone, I really appreciate it. I just needed to bounce this off some folks and get some perspective. I just didn't expect this reaction from me....actually I don't know what I expected.

@maureen9004: That's a really good point. He's a student, but he's not in school right now, so no tie for him! He's in the clear as far as that is concerned.

@SamanthaSadlier: I think that's it. I have nothing against brightly colored hair....I'm just not sure it works on HIM. Maybe it's some primitive "are you still my huband I'm not sure I recognize you" feeling.

@Jenn23: Bright neon blue. I mean BLUE. When I look at it itself, it's actually really pretty since it has some lovely undertones of a darker blue.

 @MsInterpret: Hehe. That's pretty cool. It occurs to me that after looking at the picture you posted of the woman with the darker skin with the pink hair (beautiful) that I don't think I like the color with his skin tone. It's too jarring. That's a much easier fix since it will fade.

@KatyElle: Yeah, he says he's not planning on doing it all the time, just every now and again which is okay. I think it's the color itself I'm not sure about.

Plus I have to admit that there is that part of me that's worried he's going to get mercilessly razzed (he's a veteran and meets up with a lot of other veterans). But he's a big boy and he doesn't care what they think. If it gets really bad, maybe I'll just dye my hair blue too!

@MissHelen:  I have a son (13) that is fearless when it comes to marching to his own drum.  I admit, I raised him that way, encouraged him to be himself always, and he goes to a very "alternative" type school (charter) and has awesome, open minded friends... but I still worry, as his mom, about him getting flack for many of his fashion choices.  It's all very Adam Ant / early David Bowie / androgynous.  Velvet frock coats and ripped jeans and turquoise hair. ;)  But he doesn't care, he says, if someone thinks he's gay, or weird, or anything else, in how he expresses himself, so i let him do his thing...

@KatyElle:  Aww, thanks. ::blush::

I just talked to him about it when he came home from his appointment, and to hear him speak about it, it just brings him a lot of joy. Like, sheer joy. He is having so much fun having blue hair, and that makes me love it!

 @MsInterpret: I agree, there should be more parents like you!

ETA: Here's a pic:

@MissHelen:  thanks to you too! :)  This thread is making me think pink again.  It was so fun last time and everyone said it made me look younger and oddly it makes my eyes seem greener.  Hmm.  I still have time before the wedding to get it that perfect shade of pale baby pink!

@MsInterpret: Do it....dooooooooooo iiiiiiiiiit....and then post pictures! Oh man, can you imagine pink hair with a gold colored dress? That would be amazing.

@rlsh86: Haha yeah, that's one of the reasons he did it. He was in for years, and now that he's out he's relishing that no one can tell him what to do with his hair anymore!

@MissHelen:  that is an AWESOME shade of blue, too! What'd he use?  I bet my son would love this for his next color and I wouldn't mind him having it for the wedding either. :)

@MsInterpret: You know, I have no idea. I made him an appointment at the hair salon so I don't think it was Manic Panic. I'll try to find out for you though.

@MissHelen:  Thanks.  Maybe they use something longer lasting?  I don't know.  I know way back in the day the salons used to have these awesome funky colors that LASTED.  Back before Manic Panic was readily available. Yeah, I'm revealing my age. ;)