Post # 1
…aaaaaand I’m not sure how I feel about it. So something strange has occurred.
I was all gung-ho for him to do it since he’s been wanting to for a long time. But now that he has it’s just kind of weird. I don’t know if I like it. I know that my opinion means the world to him so I’m trying to be supportive…but at the same time I don’t want to lie.
Anyone else go through something like this?
Post # 3
Oh wow! Nope, never gone through anything like that. I would just be honest. I think it is worse to lie in this case and say you like it, when you really don’t. How blue is it?? Bright blue? Does your husband like it? Maybe let him keep it a week or something? That’s what I would do. 🙂
Post # 4
My husband was dead set on dying his hair green when we were in college. I was cool with that, he played tennis for the university and it was a school color- plus, we were in college.
If he came home as his 30 year old self and said, “Maureen, I’m going to dye my hair green..” I’d be a little worried as his job is conservative. If he worked in a more creative field it wouldn’t bother me as much, but I’d think it was sort of immature. I think age, occupation, and where you are in your life plays a role in my feelings.
Post # 5
Eep! Hmmm what to do….
I would definitely be honest about it if he asks, but just try to keep it nice. Just say that you love his individuality, but you just don’t see him as a blue-haired guy. Make it sound like it just doesn’t “fit” him, rather than saying it looks bad. LOL.
That is what my husband does to me whenever I wear an outfit or do my hair in a way he doesn’t particularly like. (he prefers my hair down.) That doesn’t mean I won’t do it anyway if I happen to like it, but I prefer his honesty!
Post # 6
I think it is probably just a bit visually jarring and you need to take some time to get used to it. Also, it’s only hair, and it will fade eventually. Not permanent.
I have a different view than many on the “weird hair color” thing. I am 39 and I had “odd colored” hair up into my mid 30’s. The only reason I haven’t had it some crazy color in the past couple of years is because honestly, I’m too busy with school to invest the time into it, though I do have a bottle of cotton-candy pink waiting in the bathroom cabinet! Of course when I had jobs that didn’t allow that sort of thing I didn’t do it, but when I was a Stay-At-Home Mom, and now as a student, I figure what the heck?
People would always ask me WHY, and quite simply I would answer that I like different colors, so why NOT? I just like pink and purple better than brown or blonde.
I don’t see it as any more unnatural or weird than women putting color on their face via makeup. Who is born with purple or green or blue or brown eyelids? Really? 😉
So while some may see it as immature, I see it as just having fun. And yes, embracing my inner child a bit, the one who loved pale pink and unicorns and cake and super frilly dresses.
My kids always thought it was awesome and so did their friends. When my son (now 13) was four or five it was waist length and bright purple. I worked at his school (private) as the afterschool teacher and ALL the children loved it. I have seriously considered doing it a pale pink for the wedding!
Okay so after my long defense of funky colored hair, I wanted to say that I DO understand when your significant other does something with their hair or clothing that you hate. All you can do is give your opinion and leave it at that. Fiance has some god awful clothing choices I often try to steer her away from but if she likes it, she likes it, and there’s only so much I can say or do without coming off as a control freak (who, me?!).
Post # 7
It’s his hair, he’s an adult… all you can do is give him your honest opinion and hope it’s a phase!
Post # 8
Thanks for your input everyone, I really appreciate it. I just needed to bounce this off some folks and get some perspective. I just didn’t expect this reaction from me….actually I don’t know what I expected.
@maureen9004: That’s a really good point. He’s a student, but he’s not in school right now, so no tie for him! He’s in the clear as far as that is concerned.
@SamanthaSadlier: I think that’s it. I have nothing against brightly colored hair….I’m just not sure it works on HIM. Maybe it’s some primitive “are you still my huband I’m not sure I recognize you” feeling.
@Jenn23: Bright neon blue. I mean BLUE. When I look at it itself, it’s actually really pretty since it has some lovely undertones of a darker blue.
@MsInterpret: Hehe. That’s pretty cool. It occurs to me that after looking at the picture you posted of the woman with the darker skin with the pink hair (beautiful) that I don’t think I like the color with his skin tone. It’s too jarring. That’s a much easier fix since it will fade.
@KatyElle: Yeah, he says he’s not planning on doing it all the time, just every now and again which is okay. I think it’s the color itself I’m not sure about.
Plus I have to admit that there is that part of me that’s worried he’s going to get mercilessly razzed (he’s a veteran and meets up with a lot of other veterans). But he’s a big boy and he doesn’t care what they think. If it gets really bad, maybe I’ll just dye my hair blue too!
Post # 9
@MissHelen: I have a son (13) that is fearless when it comes to marching to his own drum. I admit, I raised him that way, encouraged him to be himself always, and he goes to a very “alternative” type school (charter) and has awesome, open minded friends… but I still worry, as his mom, about him getting flack for many of his fashion choices. It’s all very Adam Ant / early David Bowie / androgynous. Velvet frock coats and ripped jeans and turquoise hair. 😉 But he doesn’t care, he says, if someone thinks he’s gay, or weird, or anything else, in how he expresses himself, so i let him do his thing…
Post # 10
@MissHelen: Solidarity! It would be funny if you dyed your hair to match 😉
So when Fiance and I met many years ago, he had long hair. I was a huge Led Zeppelin fan so I was all about the long-haired dudes. He cut it about 3 years ago and part of me wanted to say, “Who are you!?” It took a while to get used to!
Post # 11
@MsInterpret: There should be more parents like you in the world.
Post # 12
Are you married to my fiance? He is dying to color his hair blue. He was unemployed for 6 months, and when he finally got a job the thing he was MOST excited about was that he could look however he wanted. “Babe, I got a job! One where I can dye my hair BLUE!!”
Yeah, not “Babe, I got a job. One that pays BILLS!” That’s my love.
Post # 13
Hahahaha, I’m sorry, but your post title just made me crack up for some reason.
Sometimes certain colors just don’t work with certain complexions. That sounds like what’s happening here. Here’s a pic of me with pink hair and an eyebrow ring and him with a goatee and looooong hair (it’s not the best pic, but all that I have access to right now.. you can’t really see it in the pic, but his hair went down to his butt).
It was SO weird when he cut his hair. I didn’t recognize him and it deff took some time to adjust to it. Maybe you just need to get used to it?
Post # 14
@KatyElle: Aww, thanks. ::blush::
Post # 15
@TinyTina: O…m…g. HOW do I send you a picture? I thought your pic was of me and my FI! They look sooooooo much alike! Crazy!!!
Post # 16
I just talked to him about it when he came home from his appointment, and to hear him speak about it, it just brings him a lot of joy. Like, sheer joy. He is having so much fun having blue hair, and that makes me love it!
@MsInterpret: I agree, there should be more parents like you!
ETA: Here’s a pic: